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anonymous
writes:I love my ex and my fiance.. and they're 2 different people. I was with this guy for 4 years, we had 2 kids together but he was abusive. He was pretty controlling and I took him to court and had a domestic violence order put against him. I started talking to another guy who happens to be a felon in a different country (US). He loves me and wants me to marry him in 8 weeks. He's a really softly spoken man who has a lot of respect and a good decent head on his shoulders, after a brief brush with the law. So.. I've tried moving on.. with this new guy and he's just lovely! However, I still have feelings for my ex and I just can't control it. I love him so much and would like us to be together but I like this other guy too. I am in a big mess. Help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): "Help me please"
Why don't you raise your standards, set the bar accordingly, and look for a guy who is not controlling to the point of delivering ultimatums and is neither abusive nor a felon so you don't have to choose one anti-social trait over another and you'll know for sure you're with a guy who respects you as a woman and a human being.
Wild idea, I know, and given you've recently posted exact same question and obviously did not receive the answer you wanted to hear, then you're going to ignore this advice as well.
My thoughts and prayers are with your kids. They face huge obstacles growing up, ones I could have never imagined as the child of a loving, stable, lifetime marriage between two mature, intelligent, secure adults.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): Do yourself and both of them a favour, back away from both of them. Until you get your head straight and decide what you want. Being the other relationship failed itll likely end up failing again so probably be wiser to give new guy a shot. But please make up your mind cause go with both and damage and devastation can come anytime, all caused by your selfishness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): Being that you have 2 kids, I would keep it moving. Why would you want to be with 2 different guys who have issues already?
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