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writes:Before I started to date my boyfriend in December I use to have a drinking problem. I was drunk almost every weekend. I didn't let it go as far as drinking during the week, though it did take a big part on my grades at school.During my drinking spree, which went on for a few months, I was going through a hard break up. We had been together for ten months. He was my first love. He had got my pregnant, but I had an abortion. Due to our dysfunctional relationship and his home life. I drank to numb the pain. I drank to not feel the things I felt when I was sober. I don't think anyone around me, knew how much the abortion deeply affected me. I tried to go on, like I was okay.But, then I met my boyfriend. He swept me off my feet, and made me happy again. Except sometimes I don't know if I really love him, or if I just force it. For the most part, we have a good relationship.As soon as I started dating him, my drinking just stopped completely. At first, I missed it but I got jealous when I saw all my friends living the party life, that I once had, but I would just tell myself, "I have something better - I don't need to drink" This only worked for the first couple months, because now I'm starting to feel the pressure. I feel like the whole world is on my shoulders.I miss my Girls, I miss the party life. I haven't really had time for anybody since my Boyfriend. My life is all about him. I'm young, but I don't know if I can have the party life, and still keep my love life.I really don't know what to do.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 March 2010):
But those girls all led you to drink ultimately. They didn't stop you. Don't forget that. You can have a party life, but you need to be safe about it. That said, I'm not particularly sure you're ready for a relationship if you feel this way. A relationship is about compromise. Certainly being stuck by your boyfriend isn't good. But let's face it, he's been far better for you. There is nothing stopping you from having fun with the girls. But can you truly handle it? Or will you just slip into your old ways and end up with nothing. I think you need to seriously evaluate your life and see what you want from it.
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