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writes:Hello everyone,well this is my problem. I been with my boyfriend for about 3 months going on 4 and I'm his first everything. In the beginning I knew he was falling for me and he was falling fast. But now that I took his virginity I know that he is in love. He always wants to be with me always wants to kiss me always wants to talk to me. i know he got it bad. But i don't got it as bad as he does and I feel bad. I feel like I should rush my feelings for him like I should make myself fall faster for him. I'm not saying i don't like him cause i do! Omg I like him but I'm not in love like he is. And I know that soon he is going to tell me that he loves me and what if I'm not in love? Do i lie to him and say yeah i love you too? Or do I hurt him and say i don't love you yet? I know im falling for him but not as fast...ughh. I don't know..Does anyone know whats going on with me?
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reader, kandykane +, writes (30 March 2010):
DO NOT LIE AND SAY YOU LOVE HIM WHATEVER YOU DO
love will come to you when you are not looking
do not force yourself.
if you think you MAY love him,someday
then say that
but dont lie. dont lead him on
you will regret it.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (29 March 2010):
Its funny on thise site how people give such mundane assumingly very mature adult advice to these kinds of questions. We aren't robots people. His feelings are gonna be hurt if he says he loves you and you don't say it back. But don't say it if you don't feel it. If he is hopelessly in love he will stick around if he isn't you might lose him if he doesn't feel.you feel the same way
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reader, Illithid +, writes (29 March 2010):
 You just posted a question about wanting him to move faster for you:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-my-boyfriend-to-give.html
On the one hand, you are pushing him into speeding things up. You took his virginity, and now you want him to hurry up and give you oral sex too. You want him to give himself to you, give his body to you. But on the other hand, you don't want all of his heart yet.
I think you need to take a moment and figure out what it is that you want out of this relationship and with this guy. You're frustrated by him, but don't seem to know what you're looking for him to do.
My best advice is to sit down, talk with him, explain exactly how you feel, what you want, where you are in life now, what you're expecting, and even what you're unsure about for now and see how he feels about everything. You're both in this together, so you need to discuss this together.
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