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writes: I lost my fiance because he thinks I was a prostitute!Okay, so I had been with my fiance for about 11 months and loved him dearly. I had no money and couldn't find a job so I began giving erotic massages. There was no sex involved. I admitted to giving oral twice for a lot of money but he still thinks I did more. All his friends found out and now think I'm a prostitute.I know it's an awful thing none the less but I stopped. He said I had to make something of myself. I went back to school and have an honest job. He still talked to me but never let his friends know. How do I get him to forgive me?Or am I crazy to think I deserve another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): I have been in exactly the same position, my partner knows, I was skint, had just finished college and was working towards being a teacher, which is a respected good profession. don't regert it cause that was then and this is now. You had your reason and although It wasn't the best idea and shouldn't have happened, it's in the past and you can't change what is done, so both you need to move on and forget all about it. Live in the present and work towards your future
Best of luck, and well done for going back to school.
I wish you lots of happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): You are ignoring one aspect of what you did (I'm not condemning you; but it wasn't the best choice of what to do to earn some money quickly). You tell us - and your boyfriend - "there was no sex involved." Incorrect! If you gave oral (never mind that you didn't receive it), that WAS sex. If you denied that it was sex, your fiance may have found it more difficult to overlook your way of earning a little, and consequently thought you did do more, even though you did not.
I wouldn't bring it up to him now - unless he does, but keep it in mind.
At any rate, you have done well in going back to school and getting an honest job. As Sexi writes, all you can do now is to let him see the "new you" and give him time. Don't pressure him to forgive you. Perhaps he will give the relationship another chance. You'll just have to get on with your life, and maintain a positive outlook, and see what happens.
Good luck!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Hi,everyone deserves a second chance (no you are not crazy) Some people just find it harder to forgive than others. I would like to say there are plenty of other ways of making money then the way you have chosen but what is done cannot be undone. Give him some time and let him get to know the "new" you. Let him see for himself that you really have changed. At least you are still talking, which is a start. Give him time to deal with what has happened and see where that takes you.Take care, mail me if you wanna talk
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