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*occer4lif5
writes:One day ago i gave head to this boy i like, thinking he liked me too. Biggest mistake of my life.. im 13, he has a girlfriend, and he doesnt even like me. The worst part is that it was after school, in a hallway... More things occured, such as fingering, he ate me out and he picked me up against a wall and made out with me.. I didnt feel so guilty till it finally hit me that im too young for this, and that hes only using me. I told my teacher, shes my bestfriend.. shes furious with me she told me everything i needed to know and how to handle this, after calling me a whore 10 times it got in my head that i cant fix this, i cant go back in time and prevent it from happening.. my question is, this guy is going to keep using me, i like him though, im willing to do anything for him but that could be a bad thing. And what should i do about my teacher, shes beyond mad at me, i cant live without her i cant have her mad at me, how do i fix this problem between me and her?
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reader, soccer4lif5 +, writes (4 February 2010):
soccer4lif5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy teacher is assisting me with this, shes just upset with me, and as for the guy, im done with him. thanks guys!
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (4 February 2010):
 "how do i fix this problem between me and her?"
1. Stop having any contact what so ever with this boy,
2. Stop giving your body to anyone you think likes you, and
3. Let her know you have done #1 and #2.
That said,
This is a sad thing to read. Aside from the obvious, the fact that your teacher is your best friend shows that something isn't quite right.
This situation with the boy will only continue to escalate. You think your teacher being angry is bad? How will you handle being pregnant at 13 or 14 by a guy that isn't going to do anything for you?
It will only be a matter of time before what you're doing gets around school, and you develop a bad reputation.
Try to think about why you would something before you do it. Is "I like him" really a reason? Is someone who doesn't care about you really worth your best friend?
You need to stop having any him. Nothing good has/will come out of it.
Please try to seek therapy, or at least talk to your school counselor.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (4 February 2010):
 In the first place, even though your teacher meant well, she certainly should not have called you a whore. You should report her to the headmaster, or if you're hesitant to do that, talk to your school counselor.
As for this horrible boy, YES, he IS using you. He does not have any respect or consideration for you. Supposing he were to rape you and you found yourself pregnant? You need to talk to your parents about all this. They may be shocked and somewhat cross to begin with, but after all, they are your parents and its up to them to protect you.
I hope that because you realize how inconsiderate and selfish this boy is you will IMMEDIATELY drop any thoughts of liking him and being willing to do anything for him! It is very definitely a bad idea to entertain thoughts like that, not at all in your own best interest. You need to respect yourself and put yourself first. Don't let yourself be alone with him at any time while you are at school - or after/before school. Ask your parents to report him to the police. He must not be allowed to get away with this kind of abuse - for that matter, neither should your teacher get away with the kind of name-calling you told us about!
That's why you need to talk to your parents, the headmaster or headmistress, the school counselor, to get the protection you need from people like these.
Sorry to hear about all this nasty stuff you've been enduring.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): woah honey, you're right you can't go back in time, but you can stop it from happening again. You know he's using you, you know it's wrong, you're clearly better than that so have the self respect to look after yourself and steer clear of this guy. You may think you'd do anything for him, but if it's at your expense, the feeling you'll get when you stand up for yourself and say no will be far far better than the used one you have now. If you feel that he won't take no for an answer, you need to get help from someone close to you. As for your teacher, what is she doing about this? She shouldn't have called you a whore, and she should seriously be following this up to make sure you're ok. She has a duty to protect you and if she's not doing that now, if she's not talking to you or ignoring you, then that's not ok. Have you talked to her since that time. I'd try again once she's recovered from the shock, she was possibly just confused as to what was the best thing she could do for you? If she's a good teacher then she will not turn you away for wanting advice and assistance. You should feel like you are able to turn to teachers if needs be. Tell her that you're sorry she's angry with you but you just wanted some help and someone to listen and if she's mad at you, you feel like you have nobody to talk to about it. And no more messing with guys who aren't worth even a glance, life is too short for that. And you'll be sick of them by the time you are the legal age, so right now, just enjoy being a responsible, clued-up, down to earth teenager!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 She can't stand you being used by that guy. Stay away from that guy. Do that for your own sake, not for her. She shouldn't have called you whore. You are more like a victim. It is a teacher's job to ensure the well being of students. I don't blame her for getting mad. She is angry at that guy, but also at you for not being able to protect yourself.
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