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I like going out with her but it's destroying my self-conference!

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Question - (9 January 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 11 January 2017)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Whenever I go out partying with my Best friend, all the boys flock to her or spend all evening telling me how hot she is. It is destroying my self confidence but I love hanging out with my friend. What to do?

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (11 January 2017):

BrownWolf agony aunt

Her confidence attracts the guys...Insecurities chase them away. Hint.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2017):

hmm I understand how you feel. I think the best option is to hang out in places other than bars and clubs (which are common pick up spots). Try just hanging out with her one on one at your houses, or in coffee shops.

Or learn how to laugh it off if clubbing is really your thing.

A final thing is that it doesn't necessarily indicate she is more attractive. Perhaps she is more outgoing and/or smiley, projecting approachable signals. I wouldn't put too much stock in the fact that she attracts drunk guys, there's lots of different kinds of attractiveness out there, I'm sure you can hold your own even if you are more introverted.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (9 January 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntPlease watch a film called "The DUFF" - I think you could really relate to it.

What others think isn't important. I know its easier said than done, but ignore it; you'll lose your friend, if you don't.

I struggle with my insecurities, but "The DUFF" helped me a little because it's about a girl who's friends are stereotypically more attractive and she always gets used to get to them. Please watch it; it'll help your perspective.

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