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Hey guys,I'm Muffy and I wanna help you!! I love giving advice and I love helping people. I live in Rancho and I've lived in Cali my whole life. My birthday is November 27th. I can't stand mean people.I'm a really nice person and easy to get along with. As of right now I'm single but I'm talking to someone.I'll update my relationship status a lot:) If you need anything just let me know.

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Don't date players!!

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30 November 2007: Ok, a lot of people say that they like players and that they wanna get with the player but if you get with a player he/she will just break your heart stupid!!!! I dated a player and he just broke my heart. So girls/guys,dont date players,...

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I have a spark with another guy...my boyfriend who despite what I pretend is really just a good friend

Q.   im going out with this really nice sweet guy and i really like him but i also like this other boy and i think i like him more because we have a kind of spark rather than my boyfriend who despite what i pretend is really just a good friend. I dont ...

A.   11 April 2011: If you feel like the other guy is the one for you, then go for it. Don't lead your boyfriend on because it wouldn't be fair to him. Break it to him gently and go for the other boy! Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.If you need anything ... (read in full...)

I miss my ex! Should I contact him again?

Q.   So this guy and I broke up 6 months ago I still haven't gotten over him sadly...i miss him. The break up was really bad it was mostly my fault..but I really want to talk to him. He deleted me off Facebook back when we split. Is adding him again like ...

A.   11 April 2011: If you haven't gotten over it hun, then don't go back to him. Your still healing. You don't need to torture yourself. It's gonna take awhile to get over him depending on how strong your feelings were for him but it's better to keep healing. Move ... (read in full...)

Heartbroken! How do I get over him?

Q.   Well guys, the guy I just recently talked about, broke my heart. I found out today that he's getting back with his ex. Is it bad that I cried over it even though we weren't together? He let me fall for him and he told me he liked me but then he ...

A.   15 December 2010: Thank you guys:) It's really sweet of you to help me:) I'm keeping the advice in mind:) 3... (read in full...)

I don't like the taste of condoms! Is there anything else we could use?

Q.   i had an enterprise day today which basically meant doing nothing. i had a sexual health lecture (not just me the whole group) and we were all given condoms. i serioulsy hate them. they tase disgusting and i love giving oral. even the flavoured ones ...

A.   25 November 2010: Sweetie,if your giving oral,don't use a condom.When you have sex is when you use a condom.Unless your trying to get pregnant.You could get some flavored lubricant.I have a lemon lime lubricant called a peter licker.Find stuff like that at a sex ... (read in full...)

I'm freaking out about what to get him for Christmas! I really want him to like it....

Q.   Me and my boyfriend, I'm 15 and he's 16, have been going out only for a month, but it will be our 2 month in a few days. And our 3 month is going to be a few days after Christmas. We're already talking about what gifts to get each other. He's just ...

A.   25 November 2010: Well doll,I'm sure whatever you get him he'll love it because it came from you.You should make him a homemade card for starters.Decorate it as cute as possible! Make him cute little coupons as well for kissing and stuff like that.Then you should ... (read in full...)

Have I read too much into his actions?

Q.   does he like me??, he flirts with me like tapping my shoulder, pulling my foot, and putting his hand in my face lol and recently i was drunk and hugged him and he kissed my cheeck which gave me little butterflies in my tummy lol. then i got all...

A.   20 November 2010: Okay gurl,I'm totally old fashioned too.I like when guys do the work.I honestly think he's playing mind games with you.I could be wrong,but I'm just letting you know my opinion.I wouldn't think about it too much because he's most likely just going ... (read in full...)

Do you think he's keen on me?

Q.   I'm 15 and there's this guy that's 14, the thing is he lives in the apartment building next to me... I think I really like him but he's just younger than me and my close friend says he's a good friend just not bf material.. I think she may be ...

A.   20 November 2010: Okay doll,I'm sorry to say this but what your friend says shouldn't matter.If you like him then get to know him personally.Don't listen to silly rumors like he's a "male prostitute."If you think he likes you and you like him then I say go for it.If ... (read in full...)

When I finally started moving on, he's back in my life!

Q.   hey every1 !!! how's it goin?!!! im a 17 year old girl who has this 1 problem in her life. for almost a year,i loved this boy who seemed intersted in me too cause he was always staring at me and he tried to reach me so many times.but none o...

A.   19 November 2010: Hunny,I think you should try again.If he likes you then try.Him moving back kinda sounds like fate.Go for it.Don't be shy.Spark a convo with him,something interesting,and just be yourself.Make good friends and then see where it goes from there.If it ... (read in full...)

To keep her cut out of my life or to go back and mend it?

Q.   about 9 months ago i decided to cut the girl i loved out of my life completly becuase i couldnt cope with seeing her all the time and knowing that she didnt feel the same way about me. i had hoped that this would help me forget about her and move on ...

A.   19 November 2010: In my opinion dear,you should just keep moving on.I know how you feel.I tried cutting the guy I loved outta my life and I failed.It hurts when I see him or think about him or dream about him.It will continue hurting till I cut him out ... (read in full...)

He didn't acknowledge my existence!

Q.   my friend found out that the guy i liked, liked me back.but when i texted him he never texted back and he didnt talk to me when i saw him. im 14 and dont really have lots of experience with guys. what is up with him!?!...

A.   19 November 2010: Well sugar,he could be shy and not know what to say.Try sparking a convo with him first next time you see him.Make it something interesting.Most of all be yourself.Maybe your friend was wrong.Who knows.I hope it all works out for you dear.If you ... (read in full...)

I still love her even after all the awful things she's said.

Q.   I had an affair with a woman back at the beginning of summer. I know, it's wrong and I regret it. But that's not really what my question is about. After she broke up with her girlfriend, we continued seeing each other. We had some of the best...

A.   19 November 2010: Sweet cheeks,I know how you feel.I'm still hurt over my last boyfriend and we broke up like last year. I honestly don't think she cares about anyone but herself.She hurt her ex and she hurt you and she'll continue what she's doing.It's better to try ... (read in full...)

Crabby girlfriend or this new girl?

Q.   ok so for the past 3 months my gf has been a total bitch to me every time i go to kiss her or hug her she shouts at me and storms off. when i ask her she just does the same thing. now theres this other girl who aparently is nuts about me ,but i ...

A.   19 November 2010: Hun,if your not happy in the relationship then theres really no point in staying.You can still love her though.If this new girls makes you happy then try getting into a relationship with her.You don't deserve to be treated like that.I hope ... (read in full...)

He says this isn't going to work but yet he makes googily eyes at me!

Q.   Sorry if i ramble this one out. Basically i am one in a long line of teenagers with boy troubles. I actually can not believe the amount of headspace they take up! Ok so there is this guy and i was really into him at the start of college, we get ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well sugar,I hate when guys do that too.But what you really should do is just ask him if he doesn't think it's going to work then why does he keep staring at you.I think you should move on cause he's obviously playing mind games and you don't ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I'm so in love with him?

Q.   I'm so in love with my boyfriend at this point. We love each other and what not. But we haven't told each other that we're "in love" with one another. Because well... we aren't. Or wasn't at the time. We think "i love you" and "I'm in love with you" ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well sweetie,you are absolutely correct.Loving someone and being in love with someone is very different.I love everybody but I'm not in love with everybody! I think you should just sit him down and tell him.Don't be crazy about it though.Just be ... (read in full...)

How can I become a good kisser?

Q.   how can I become a good kisser ? easy steps , hard steps , any steps ? what do guys want in kissing ? how do I tell him I want to kiss him ? what do guys look for in a kisser ? etc . please help ! thanks ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,I can't really give you any tips.The only thing I can say it just go with the flow.It's not that hard.I hope everything works out for you.If you need anything let me know. Love and kisses, Muffy33... (read in full...)

I put my big foot in it... help!

Q.   hi there, i knew my best friend saw her ex a few times at the beginning of her relationship with her boyfriend, its been 5 months now and she stops me speaking to her boyfriend because shes overprotective and doesnt like it, but im really good mates ...

A.   19 November 2010: Okay hun,I know it's hard.You don't wanna lose either of them.I think it's utterly ridiculous that you couldn't talk to her boyfriend.Some girls are like that though and I think it's caused by jealousy.Anyways,you did an oopsy and let it slip.All ... (read in full...)

I don't know what to say to the boy I like.

Q.   Hix okay theres this boy and me and him sit ourselves at this bg table in computing and its been over a year ive been crushing on him but i cant find any words to say to him i find it hard to make conversation plus hes leaving school soon beca...

A.   19 November 2010: Okay hun,if you want the conversations to last longer then you'll have to talk to him about things he's interested in.If you don't know what he's interested in then ask him.When you don't have anything to say,make a funny joke to break the ice.It's ... (read in full...)

Have I been a good friend in all this?

Q.   This is a very complicated problem, im not sure where to start. My best friend for 10 years is in love with my ex. It isn't a crush, he loves her like he has never loved anything else. I was genuinley happy that he did, because she deserves that ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,in my opinion you both made a smart choice.Leaving that girl may have seemed hard,but staying friends with her while she was doing them would've been worse.She would've been outta her mind and anything could've happend.She coulda said she ... (read in full...)

I'm scared of my ex boyfriend even though I like him.....

Q.   I like my ex-boyfriend a lot. But the problem is when we started going out two years ago he really wanted to have sex with me and when ever we talked he would whisper in my ear and say he wanted to have sex with me right there, he wanted to rip my ...

A.   19 November 2010: Sugar,I was the same way with half of my boyfriends when I wasn't ready for sex.I'd shake,not answer thier calls and look away from them too.If your not ready then your not ready.If he can't except that then he's not worth it.He doesn't deserve ... (read in full...)

My first kiss is happening soon and I don't know what to do!

Q.   Okay, so my fwb Tyler, and I are going to the movies Friday and we have already talked about it and everything. He said when I hug him he's gonna kiss me right then and there; he will be my first kiss and I am so nervous I don't even know how to ...

A.   19 November 2010: Sugar,you are too cute! Don't worry too much.Just relax.When you see him and he leans in to kiss you,lean in too.I freaked out on my first kiss too.Two of my guy friends had to show me with thier hands and they were explaining it and making sounds ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I like her, it doesn't feel like a normal crush!

Q.   Hi, my mind is very confusing and I hate it (my mind). Becasue it makes everthing difficult and currently i think I might like this girl and I`m not to sure. She`s a nice girl and is very kind, she helped me clean up the water I had droped when a ...

A.   19 November 2010: Hun,I think she could very well like you.But you need to figure out your feelings first so you don't hurt her and you don't get hurt either.If you like her,then start talking to her.If you don't,then just be her friend.Either way I hope everything ... (read in full...)

I have one flirty boyfriend!

Q.   My boyfriend tends to flirt with other girls and this really bothers me. I've talked to him about it and he still flirts.And it is always the same girl he flirts with. I'm almost convinced he's cheating...he's cheated on me before. What should I do? ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well sweetie,if he's cheated on you before then he'll probably do it again.If he's flirting with other girls and you've asked him not to,then unfortunately he doesn't care about you.I know that hurts but it's true.I don't think you guys should be ... (read in full...)

Should I text him, should I call him? I don't want to give up on us!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for two months. That's not a long time at all, but we got along really well and everything was going great. It was like puppy love. He tells me he loves me and he wants to marry me, and I know he can't actually mean it ...

A.   19 November 2010: Unfortunately sugar,I don't think he'll change.If he has to flirt with other girls when you guys fight to make himself feel better,then he's,not to be mean,pathetic.He must not have a good self-steem level.You don't deserve what he's giving you ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid if I act on my emotions I will lose him completely

Q.   I'm a 16yo boy who is bisexual and seriously in love with a friend. The thing is i dont know what to do, i want to act on my emotions but am afraid that if i do i will lose him completely. We're so alike which leads me to think he might not be str...

A.   19 November 2010: Sugar,you should ask him if he's gay or bi first.If you act on it and come to find out he's not, it will make things awkward and he might get freaked out and leave.If he is gay or bi, then go ahead and act upon it.The worst that could happen is he ... (read in full...)

My insecurities keep slapping me in the face!

Q.   I can't get over my insecurity. I've always been a bit insecure because I'm not pretty enough and ever since I was in like 6th grade, when other girls started getting some attention from boys, I was left out. The thing is, I recently broke up with ...

A.   19 November 2010: Sugar,I know exactly how you feel.I like a guy right now and he's friends with a lot of prettier girls then me so I get very jealous.Sometimes I wanna cry when I see those prettier girls too.I have screwed up teeth and my complextion isn't very ... (read in full...)

She never shuts up about him!

Q.   okay, so I have this one friend that I love like a little sister. She comes to me a lot with her issues because I'm two years older than her. So, about 5 months ago she got her first boyfriend. I was naturally happy for her when times were good ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well dear,you should be happy with yourself for being such a good friend to her.If you want to talk about other things with her then tell her.Don't be mean about it,but be gentle.If she asks for your help on guys,give it to her.Then you ask her for ... (read in full...)

Are these signs she likes me?

Q.   i like this girl and i think she likes me, i have seen her occasionaly looking at me across the room, when i look at her she will either turn away quickly or smile. She calls me her 'best guy friend' and plays with my hair. She says that i am the ...

A.   19 November 2010: Hun,she could very well like you.All you have to do is man up and ask her.Then you have your answer.If she likes you then go for it.If not then I guess you'll have to move on.I hope everything goes well for you.If you need anything let me know. ... (read in full...)

My ex is coming to visit, HELP!!!

Q.   I am going to see my ex for the first time in a month. We have seen each other since the split, but only once a week, when he comes food shopping at my work. I work in a small store so it's usually difficult to avoid him. Aside from that we've just ...

A.   19 November 2010: Sweetie,if you don't like him as more than a friend then you shouldn't be upset over the break up.If you want him to stay and chat for a bit then ask him too.Have some coffee or some lunch together.Just don't act nervous and don't be mean.Be sweet ... (read in full...)

How do I face them after our drunken threesome?

Q.   I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hunny,your husband has no reason not to respect you.He went along with it too.And so did your friend.You guys were drunk and were just having fun.Don't dwell too much on it.In your eyes, you made a mistake and all you can do is learn from ... (read in full...)

How do I ask a guy out?

Q.   Hey guys! I really really like this guy and I think he likes me too as he's always laughing at my jokes and smiling at me! The thing is he is single but I've never asked a guy out before and I don't know how to! Please help!...

A.   19 November 2010: Hun,you are a strong independent young lady.All you have to do is ask if he would like to go to the movies with you or go hang out at the park or anything else fun you can think of.Whatever you decide,make sure the both of you have fun and ... (read in full...)

If he doesn't care about me anymore, then why does he still look at my stuff?

Q.   I know I asked this before, but I didn't get enough responses to get my final decision :l Hello, I got out of a relationship 4 months ago. Basically, I was dumped, and lets say my ex and I have been through a lot. We used to be attached like tw...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,distance relationships are very hard and most of the time don't work.So breaking up is probably for the better.I have a formspring and yes,they do bring out the worst in people.Your friends actions are not your fault though.You didn't have ... (read in full...)

My best friend's girl!

Q.   I'm having some serious relationship issues right now. I've had crushes my entire life and I know that they've all been just crushes and nothing more, but this one person I met... I've never felt this way about anyone else. I seriously think I might ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,all you can do is be supportive of your friend.If he makes her happy, then you should be happy too.If they end up not being together, then let her know how you feel.Open up your heart to her so she knows her options.Who knows,maybe she had ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to not have a girlfriend at the age of 16?

Q.   I am 16 years old and I don't have a girlfriend, yet. I've never had girlfriend before in my entire life. People (primarily my peers) have told me that not having a girlfriend at my age is sad and pathetic. I remember one guy on my football would ...

A.   19 November 2010: Hun,absolutely nothing is wrong with you.I think it's awsome that your okay with saying your not ready for a girlfriend. If your not ready,then your not ready.Oh well.Don't let what your parents and other people say.Obviously they have nothing ... (read in full...)

Would it be possible for us to keep the baby at our age?

Q.   My best friend and I were in his room messing around and we ended up "doing it", this was both of our first times and I didn't really want to but we did. Really stupid of me!!He didn't think that I'd get pregnant cuz I was on birth control but I ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,you are both still very young.It could,not saying it would,but could ruin both of your lives.You still need to finish school and get a job and a drivers license and all those good things.On top of that,you guys aren't even in love.You have ... (read in full...)

I really like this guy but his friends are really mean!

Q.   hi i really hope you can help me because i have a problem. I really like this guy, but he hardly knows i exist. My friends tell me that he likes me, but im not so sure. This is good for me, apart from his friends are really popular and mean. I ...

A.   19 November 2010: Sweetie,if he talks to you and is nice to you then who cares what his friends think.He's the one you want,not his friends.Just tell them to screw off.Next time you talk to him, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.Simple as that.If he says ... (read in full...)

He loves who I am, but hates who I was!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. In the begining he was amazing. Super nice, caring everything i wanted. But lately we have been fighting over random things due to the stress of school. At some point I guess the fighting has gotten to ...

A.   19 November 2010: Okay sweetie,I'm so sorry your going through this.Sex shouldn't just be an item.It's something you do when your in love with someone.Unfortunately,your mans hormones are raging.When he doesn't get what he wants,he takes it out on you.Sit him down ... (read in full...)

I just don't have the guts to kiss my girlfriend!

Q.   I'm 14 years old and I have a girlfriend. I love her a lot but I just don't have the guts to kiss her I don't know why. Shes not my first, and its never happened to me before. I just have the filling that I'm going to mess up and lose her. can you ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well hun,just know that it'll all work out in the end.Don't plan anything,just let it happen.Let nature take it's course.If you guys happen to bump heads or something like that happens,just laugh about it.It's not a big deal sweetie.I don't think ... (read in full...)

Online man I like is same age as my mom!

Q.   I have been speaking with a man for five months now. I'm 18 and he lives in North Carolina. I have an aunt there and my mother has been saying she will move there during the next fall. He mentioned he was thinking of going back to college to study ...

A.   19 November 2010: Okay hun,he's 40 and your 18.It's not mine or anyone else's place to tell you who you can and can't like,but that's just all bad.Since you haven't met him yet,you should end it now so nobody gets hurt.It might hurt you for a little while,but you'll ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to still be friends with my ex?

Q.   my partner for 9years left me for a woman 5years younger than me,i have a 4 year old baby boy. Is it right to still be friends with him? thank you...

A.   19 November 2010: Yes,it's okay to be friends with him.You should always forgive someone so you don't have any hate in your heart.You don't have to forget what he did though.Just don't hold a grudge.And as for your son,I hope everything goes okay with him and he ... (read in full...)

Why does he have to speak to his ex every day?

Q.   Why is my boyfriend doing this?? am i overreacting? my boyfriend speaks to his ex gf everyday..i read the convo and he said "hows my wife doing??" he talks about her all the time to me...every convo he has to bring up something about her.. i ...

A.   19 November 2010: Well sweetie,he was with her for some time and he probably fell in love with her.It's hard to forget about someone you love hun.The point is that he's with you now and if he says he loves you then he does.Getting jealous over him talking to her is a ... (read in full...)

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