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writes:Last year my grandfather died and he left some of his money to me and to my brother. Here's my dilemma... I have worked all my life The problem is that the line if work I'm in, customer services pays badly and there is zero respect in the job from my superiors. After a particularly bad few weeks, getting spoken to like rubbish and overlooked for promotion (which I have worked really hard for and qualified to do) I decided to hand my notice in.Fortunately I'm in a position not to work thanks to my inheritance from my grandfather. However nobody at work knows about my small fortune.I lied to my manager saying I found a job in another office, in a management position... I know I should have just said I found another job and not go in to detail but I was angry... Here's my dilemma...my manager offered to give me a promotion and nearly match my fake salary (£1000 less)!! He said that I am valued and a good asset to the company... Now I feel so guilty... I had no idea he would offer to do this! Do I accept this offer or do I just leave as planned? It's a fantastic opportunity but I'm worried I'll get found out...The company I lied about getting my new job at is out of the town where I currently live and work so I should be ok..Also I find it odd that he couldn't promote me fast enough once he knew I was leaving, yet in my original application was declined...Please don't say to tell the truth as I can't... I'm embarrassed about the whole thing!I have to make my decision by Friday...Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): Thank you all so much for your positive responses! I forgot to take my code however I posted this!
I have decided to accept the job. I will see how it goes but if I'm not happy I will leave- as one of you said "it's a win win situation"!
In answer to being asked how I was treated well many supervisor doesn't have good communication/ people skills therefore demands& is pushy. Also the atmosphere is sometimes negative due to how things are run (management really don't have a clue how to do things, basic things which makes it difficult for everyone else!)
However I'm going to embrace my 2nd chance& gain as much experience as I can xx
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (13 February 2013):
 This happens all the time. People go into a bartering situation and play one job off against the other. Ok your other job is not real but no one needs to know that. You won't get caught out and if you like working in your current company then I would stay. It is very rare that an employer would actually ring the other company and ask if they had made an offer to you as it would seem very very odd and they would not be told anyway due to confidentiality reasons. This would only work if they knew people working there already that they could ask as a friend. Far too involved and convoluted for most comapnies. Good on you that you said you had been offered a mangement role as this clearly got them thinking! Stay there and after all you then have a better salary and a nice heap of money in the bank. Worse case scenartio if you begin not to like the job you can just leave and live off the inheritance. Sounds like win win to me!
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (13 February 2013):
 Accept the offer! There is no reason why your superior would check with that particular company and verify whatever you said is true UNLESS he is good friends with the hiring manager. If it is out of town and he has no connections at that location, you have nothing to worry about. You're simply being paranoid because of your guilt. Clearly he sees you as an asset now that he was close to losing you. It made him appreciate you more and he gave you a salary increase and a promotion. Clearly he thought you were worth it. If he thinks you're worth it, why would he be checking on you to see if you were telling the truth? And say your worst fear becomes true and he snoops on you, if he were to get in touch with the hiring manager and asked them if they offered you a position, technically that is confidential information that is not shared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): A similar sort of thing happens all the time. People go on job interviews not because they actually intend to get a new job (though they fully pretend that they want the new job otherwise the new company won't waste its time interviewing them) but just to get a higher offer which they then present to their current employer asking for a better counter-offer to stay. Since you have worked hard and suffered a lot being treated like rubbish, I think you have earned this promotion. But get it in writing first, dont' just take your manager's word for it. Especially given the history of how you have been getting treated at this company....although I want to ask you, given how you have been treated in this company by your superiors, are you sure you DO want to stay even with this promotion? I mean, with your new inheritance it's not like you NEED this job anymore. You could just as well get a real new job that will treat you better and have the luxury - since you're not pressed for money immediately - to take your time finding it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2013): If you want the job then go for it. You have been working there long enough for them to know you and your capabilities so it's not as if you have deceived them in any way. Plus I don't think it will matter much to them WHY you were leaving, they only care that you were going to and they took steps to keep you since they obviously value you as an employee (incidentally, that could be why you were initially overlooked for promotion - if you are doing a great job in your current position then they may not want you to stop doing it to take a different role elsewhere. Unfair, yes but it happens). Congratulations to you on your new role :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2013):
 I would take the job offer from the current company and give them 150% effort.
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