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writes: hi just wonderin if u could give me some advice? i met my ex 3 years ago it was fine 4 the first few months then the rows started...we rowed most of the time we both didnt trust each other! he had a bad temper on him i knew where it come frm as he had probs at hme which i tried to help but hes stubborn n didnt let me! he liked goin out with his friends alot which i didnt mind but not all the time if u no wat i mean? the final straw came in sep 05 on my 18th wen he broke my nose, so we ended it 4 gud! but it wasnt all bad with us wed been thru alot 2getha n i worshiped him n loved him so much! after we split up i met a new bf he was olda than me 22, he treated me how id always dremt of bein traeated would do n e think 4 me and always put me first,,, at 1st i thought i was over my ex but then 6 weeks in to the new relationship i found out i was 4 weeks pregnant which totaly freaked me out, i felt i didnt no my new bf well enough n i was too young! wen we found out my bf was over the moon booked me in 4 scans told all his family i felt so trapped n like i had no 1 because i didn tell a soul i was petrafied. as the days went by i got more an more scared but i couldnt bear to brake his heart n say i didnt want it! on new years eve i went to a party with my mates just to get away from it all... my ex was there we just looked at each other all the feelings came bck my new bf n bein pregant had gone out of my mind! we talked all night and arranged 2 meet the next day! so i spoke 2 my current bf told him i cudnt b with him n had to end the pregnancy he was devastated! i got bk with my ex and went 4 a termination on my own still no 1 on my side noing! i new i was doing wrong but i went through with it which i really regret now! so me n my ex were bak 2gether he was fine like a changed person.. well 4 the first 2 months then then it all started again, the violence, lies, always out with friends! the other 1 who i was with 4 that short perioud still txt me all the time as a m8 n he understood y i did it in the end as i was too young, hardly new each ufa n i wanted a career 1st! anyway cut a very long story short im bk with the nice 1 now as i realised how stupid i was letting him go but hes still very hurt with what i did and wants to have another kid he has also asked me 2 marry him. iv said its a bit early bt he thinks its bcoz im in love with my ex, which im really not but i still have feelings 4 him bt as a friend! my heads just really messed up im sorry iv waffled on lol! plz help xxxx
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reader, Lazzle  +, writes (14 May 2006):
 Dear anonymous,
Explain to your new boyfriend that you have feelings for HIM,not your ex.Tell him you only see your ex as a friend.Also tell him that you don't feel ready to get married and to have kids.Reassure him it is nothing to do with your ex.
Good Luck!
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