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*xMishxX
writes:Hey,a quick question, how do you know what you want to do in life if you have no ambitions and no idea on a career path?I had to quit college because i became pregnant, yes it was planned but it happened sooner then planned. The college course i was doing, i do not want to do anymore (childcare) i want to be away from babies/children all together.At the moment i am a housewife and never go out, im kind of sick of these four walls. I do not know what i want to do in life, nothing interests me to be honest. I like dance but i doubt there are many dance careers. How do you find out what you want to do in life because we could do with the money, me and hubby have loads of arguments over money. I do not want a dead end job stacking shelves or shop work long term.thanks
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reader, XxMishxX +, writes (11 April 2011):
XxMishxX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey k_c100, the only thing i really liked doing in school was science, from a early age i loved weather, space and astronomy, when connexions came round asking what we liked, they said id never get into Cosmology or astronomy because im too "stupid" so i didnt pursue it. I do not think i would be able to get into this field anyway, it would mean going to uni etc. I got bullied in school so had to take gcse's at college which means i was nearly 2years behind most people my age. most people that did my childcare college course were 17/18yrs old where as i was 19/20years old. I have 4gcse's and a btec qualification in ICT.As for male anon. why do you think being married stops me from having a career? it has nothing to do with what i do or how i work. i do not understand that. I got married because i love my husband and wanted to get married. As for having a baby, we was planning on getting pregnant by june/july so i could finish college but i got pregnant in april/may, i cant tell my body when to get pregnant. Only because im married and have a child doesnt mean i cant have a cereer or a job. I would like a job when my son goes to nursery obviously in school hours but i would like a career later in life. i will be looking for any job at the moment but im thinking long term, i want to make something of my life and make my son proud of me :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Teaching fitness classes may not be a bad idea - you can train through college for a sports/personal trainer type qualification which will mean you are able to get a job at a gym or local sports centre etc. You would then be able to teach dance classes or dance type fitness classes which might suit you?
If that doesnt grab you - what were you good at when you were at school? Do you have many qualifications? What did you enjoy at school?
It is difficult to think of what you want to do, many people your age have no idea what they want to do with their lives. And for you it is even harder because you have children so you are very limited to what you can do, as you wont be able to work the long hours that are often associated with building a good career.
But have a think about what you enjoy and what you were good at in the past at school. Then use those skills to either look for jobs now or find a college/university course.
And even think about this - starting at the bottom doesnt always mean it is a dead end job. People who start as checkout girls can go on to be supermarket managers. One of my friends started out working as a cashier in a bank and now 6 years later, she is a branch manager. So starting at the bottom and working your way up is no bad thing, and often the best way to go if you dont have many qualifications. You might just have to suck it up and get a job doing something a bit rubbish for now, with the view to it leading somewhere in the future. If you need money then you simply have to get a job, sometimes we all have to do things we dont enjoy simply because we need the money. But look at every job, even the boring ones, as opportunities where you can move up if you have the right attitude and work hard.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): You've got yourself into a bit of a pickle here. Careers in dance are very few and far between and generally you will have to have started long before now and be of a really high standard already. Most dancers have a limited shelf life, too.Really, probably would have been wiser not to have got married at your age (if 18-21 is right) and to have waited until you were quite a bit older and had decided what sort of career you wanted, or perhaps travelled a bit, before settling down. Add a child (which you can't really say was planned if it came along early) into the mix and I'm afraid it is going to be much harder for you to work generally - balancing a job and a baby is difficult.
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