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writes:Ok I had a child 3 years ago. Things didn't work out with his mother but shortly after we split up I fell madly in love with her cousin. Which is also my sons cousin. We have spent the last two years together and everything has been amazing. But we have received alot of grief over it, especially when people talk to us about having kids together cause its not fair to my son. Because she is his cousin. I don't know what to think anymore. Can anyone give me some helpful advice. I can also accept criticism im used to it. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2012):
 my ex husband's family has a whole bunch of "brother-cousins.... the mom dated two cousins.. had children with both... they are brothers and cousins...
The excuse that it will bother your son is bogus... kids are malleable and accept what is placed before them as normal.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 I can only echo what everyone else here has already told you. The issues that might affect this relationship are more or less trivial and not worth much attention. I highly doubt your son will suffer for it. If you really love this woman, there really isn't anything anyone can say that should stop you two from being happy because, you aren't doing anything wrong.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Abigail221  +, writes (30 March 2012):
there is no problem, you guys aren't related. what people think is thier own, don't let it bug you. just keep doing what your doing, and have fun being in love.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (30 March 2012):
 i'm not seeing the problem, YOU'RE not related to the cousin, so it's not incest, and just because your son is related, what does that really affect other than her now taking care of him like a mother than a cousin?...or is the problem just that it's mean of you to be dating other people in your ex's family?
I think they're just hurt/protective of your ex. doesn't make sense otherwise that much...don't men sometimes fall in love with ex's sisters?
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reader, lover06 +, writes (30 March 2012):
You love her , she loves you . I say go for it let the people talk, they will evenually go way . you should go ahead enjoy your love and have kids I think your son will be happy to have brothers or sisters. Kids are not like adults they are open way more then people give credit too. (personal expriance in it.) Good luck Dude all the best go for it .:)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 I dont see a problem. You should see some of the family connections, interconnections and inter inter connections in the small town I live in, eg my cousin has a son to the man who eventually married her cousin and had a further 3 children with her. Those kids were all raised in this town and attended the same schools etc. There were no problems.
If you and the girl you are madly in love with want to spend the rest of your lives together, as a family I dont see any reason why you cant have some children together, the only reason your son would have a problem with it is if some busy bodies cant keep their silly mouths shut and make it a problem.
If you and your girl are madly in love and want to make a few babies I say go for it!
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