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writes:Ok, I have a physician (gyneocologist) that is overseeing my pregnancy. I have been a patient of his for about 7 years. He is about 56 yrs old. Well here is the issue, he seems so nervous around me. I watch him interact with other patients and he is so down to earth. When he comes near me, his hands are shaking, no eye contact is given, and he speaks really fast. He doesnt spend much time with my care with the pregnancy but he is a good doctor. He has always been different around me. I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. I try to be open and witty to make him feel relaxed. I catch him staring at me sometimes but he would quickly look away. Am I doing something strange or weird? My husband tends to think his behavior is funny and gets a kick out of our visits when he can attend. What could be wrong with him? I asked my husband should we switch doctors but he just laughs really hard and says no. I just dnt like the nervousness around me when he is not like that with others. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): You should change doctors- he will probably be delivering your baby and caring for your pregnancy. you don't want someone who is that nervous around you no matter what the reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Change doctors. If you aren't comfortable you should not stay - and your visits to see your gynaecologist should not be about entertainment for your husband.
It could simply be that your gynae does find you attractive and this makes him embarassed around you because it impinges on his otherwise professional standards. We all expect our doctors to be coolly professional at all times and for the most part - to their credit and our relief - they manage it. But what if one finds oneself genuinely attracted to someone?
I would be more worried by the person who made wisecracks or sly remarks than the one who appears genuinely nervous.
So ... back to first sentence again ... if you aren't comfortable you should change your doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): It sounds like he's attracted to you and has a crush on you. If this is interfering with the quality of his care, you should definitely change doctors. But yes, the "weird behavior" definitely sounds like he's attracted to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): well a doctor is also a human being and I think probably he fancies you.It is up to you to decide whether to switch doctor or not but I think he will be disapponted and embarassed if you switch him now. I am sure he is also enduring alot of conflicting feelings about his behaveour. I would say it will be kind of you to remain with him as long as he doesn't do anything inapproperate. As I say a doctor is also a human being after all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2012):
 IF you are not comfortable then switch doctors... there is nothing like not feeling comfortable with your doctor...
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Yes, I believe you should change doctors. You feel that he is uncomfortable around you, and treats you differently to his other patients; to me thats enough reason to move on. You don't really want to have to ask him whats that matter, whats going on, do you?? If you do have a choice, and opportunity to change doctors, just do it, and then neither of you will be uncomfortable and having to explain why.
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