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writes:Well last night my boyfriend and I went to a party and got drunk. After that I hit his lower side, basically his balls. I did it in a joke a stupid one. After that he slapped me in my face and i started bleeding. I was so shocked because he never ever put his hands on me. He told me if he ever hits me to leave him. But it is very weird because i still love him , and he did not even call to apologize or try to make things better. I'm shocked and i feel as though i cant move on . Please from the bottom of my heart, I need some reassurance and some advice, because i am broken inside.
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reader, Daveeeeeee  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 You must never kick a guys balls ..and you certainly dont do it saying " It was a joke " , It was not .
You assalted him , he defended himself ..fair is fair .
Im glad you got back together .
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reader, curse286 +, writes (18 September 2009):
oh my gosh, don't ever hit a man in the balls.... it hurts so much, it makes you puke .. if hard enough ... if only women knew the pain.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Well, things turned out good. Just don't beat him again, down there or anywhere else.
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reader, eurolove +, writes (29 October 2008):
eurolove is verified as being by the original poster of the question my update well i got back with him and we love each other more then over ...shit happens but i am strong to survive it
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reader, eddie  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 You hit him, he reacted and hit you. You're both wrong. I'd say you're more wrong since you hit him first. He may have reacted instinctively to being hit and responded by protecting himself. Let's face it, if he hit you first and you called the police, he'd be in jail charged with assault. I believe people do stupid things and this is one of them. Get over it and keep your hands to yourself. It's funny though how many women feel "a guy should NEVER hit a woman"...People shouldn't hit people !!! I have the right to protect myself no matter who hits me, male or female.
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reader, cliis its me +, writes (13 October 2008):
hey have u seen them ad's on tv about austraila says no im sure wat ever country ur in has them to no guy should ever hit a girl to make them self feel like a man "awkward place to hit him but im very sure he would have gotten over it" there is no excuse to hit a girl/ women sorry but wether it be mucking around or meaning it theres simply no excuse .. i think you should confide in someone like a sister a best friend or your mum love comes and goes its kinda like a bus the next one will be along in 5minutes but that is a experience in life you will learn from loving someone after that has happened is natural trust me but maybe you need to focus the positives in your life and rule him out as a positive or maybe you just need to talk to him
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (13 October 2008):
To Pokerpgh: I agree, you must not hit any woman. Just for the sake of asking, has anyone kicked you down there? Say, for example, your friends, in a "playful" manner? If someone has indeed done that to you, did it hurt? We're not talking about a pinch. Or a punch, for that matter. We're talking about doing serious damage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): No guy should ever touch a girl, ever. BUUUT, a girl should never hit a guy in his balls unless being attacked. I once dated a girl who would always hit me in the arm or smack my arm, and it didnt hurt that much but she did it so much that it became annoying as hell, and it was one of the reasons why i broke up with her.
If i were you i would leave him, as much as it was BOTH his and your fault im afraid that if he hit you with that much force then he really dosent mind too much about hitting people, if i got hit in the balls i still wouldnt hit the girl back, i would just yell at her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): dont hit guy in his nuts...just imagine if he hit you in down under!im very against guys hiting girls but Sorry darling girl or not you deserved it. It was probably a instant reaction on his part and didnt mean to do it tho. You owe each other a biggy sorry to one another
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reader, pokerpgh +, writes (13 October 2008):
A guy should never hit a woman, period. However, I don't think a woman should hit a man, either. I dated a girl awhile back that, I think jokingly, would hit, kick, and things of that nature. I guess a lot of women think, 'hey, you're the man, I'm the woman, I can't hurt you'.. There's something too that, but in my case, sometimes it actually did hurt, and moreso was annoying as hell.. So, my point is, don't hit a guy, other than a playful shove or pinch, or something like that, but for him to react so violently is something to seriously be considered. Talk to him about the whole evenings occurences and try to work it out. Good luck.
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (13 October 2008):
 You were both drunk forgive each other and move on, but talk about it first.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (13 October 2008):
I disagree with you, dear poster: You don't need reassurance. You need someone to shake you, metaphorically. You didn't hit him playfully, and he didn't hit you back as a game, either. Something is the big matter with you two. There is a lot you're not telling each other, and are venting out this way.
I'm honestly not sure if you should leave him, because he's as guilty of hitting as you are. You're wrong in expecting an apology while, at the same time, not even think about offering one. BOTH of you are wrong here. What you think of as "playful" might not seem playful at all to an outside observer. Obviously it didn't seem a game to him, either.
Maybe it's a good idea to end this. If this were really your idea of a game, then I don't want to know what it will be like when you start having discussions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): A taboo has been broken here. You have to end it with him.
In future don't ever hit a guy, even in jest.
They must never hit you either.
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