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writes:Ok so me and an old friend got in contact through facebook.. We've talked met up a couple of times.. Well I remember I used to have the biggest crush on him.. He was even my first kiss back when we were in our teens.. Well we're older now and we kind of have this attraction towards each we kiss, full around we still haven't had sex though.. He's asked me if I would have sex with him.. Because we've kissed made out.. But before it gets to that point I stop... I mean I'm not a virgin.. I haven't had sex in 2 years since I broke up with my last bf.. I'm just scared of getting emotionally attched to him.. I mean I do have my needs I want to have sex with him but I'm scared.. I'm not the type that just sleeps around.. Plus also I'm insecure of my body I'm a big girl.. I don't think I'm ugly its just my body I don't like.. And he's well built tall skinny athletic.. That's one thing also that holds me back my body I've always been a big girl.. I mean a girl has her needs too but I don't want him to think I'm easy.. Or what if he's using me to have sex then disapear on me.. I'm really comfortable around him but when it gets close to haviing sex I stop. Like I said I haven't had sex in 2 years.. Should I just go for it and see what happens?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Maybe not. Because you already know what will happen , the same it happens now. You meet casually , you fool around, you stop one inch short of penetration, but you don't have a relationship. It won't change that much - you'll meet casually, you'll have intercourse, you won't have a relationship.
If you'd be Ok with that, go ahead, if you want the (relative ) security of a committed relationship, then you should be in one before having sex.
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