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writes: I'm friends with this guy over the net and kinda has fallen for him by accident and I'm jealous of his friendship with this other girl he talks to, I really don't want to be jealous and just ignore the feelings I have for him. Plus I'm quite insecure. What do I do?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Wow you need to work on that self-esteem there missy! There are a ton of websites that deal with building one's self-esteem. Goggle it and do some research. You will have huge relationship problems in the future if you don't start valuing yourself. As far as you online guy goes...good luck with that one, most guys turn out to be total jerks but you may luck out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): I'm assuming you have not MET this internet guy, right? Are there any plans to meet in person?
The other posters are right: you can't really fall in love with someone you basically know very little about, and until you meet in person, its a POTENTIAL relationship, not a real one.
You can't help your feelings, true, but you have to realize that unless you and this man start dating and after a few months agree to date only one another, he has every right to communicate with/date/be friends with, any woman he wants to.
If you don't drop your feelings of jealousy, he will sense it, and it will turn him off! Why not see if you can arrange to meet and see if he'd like to do that? At the same time, enjoy your social life and write to other men on the 'net.
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 er...how DO you fall in love over the internet...its not healthy being jealous of someone you dont know, better yet dont exist. that guy you're talking to might be making it up.. for one, you dont know how he looks like right? and two, do you REALLY now who he is?
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Hi there,
firstly you need to know whether this guy feels the same way about you and whether there's any future in this online relationship, or is it just friendship,i know its very easy to fall for someone online but if you know there's no future in it then i suggest you just treat it as a plutonic relationship and get on with your life meeting people or make some new friends on the internet besides him its gonna do no good falling for this guy when he has no interest in you because your just fall deeper and deeper..
Good Luck
xLEAHx
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