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*effyJ
writes:hey there:)well... this is like my 1st message so it feels kinda weird. Right then... Ive been going out with my girlfriend for about a year and a bit and we have sex alot.. alot alot lol. but yeah i have never made her cum... she says she loves having sex with me,but i dont know if she's just saying it.i love her loads. please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, bk001 +, writes (4 March 2007):
 There are all kinds of ways in foreplay to stimulate a woman. It usually starts with conversation at dinner and ends with the "Big O" or more later. Do a web search and learm some techniques, experiment with your gal, and at the right time don't be afraid to ask her what she likes and how she likes it. Just keep exploring... Different women like different things. Bottom line: the human body responds to the proper stimulation, it's not rocket science down there ... LOL! Try whatever you like, learn and have fun. Good luck!
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reader, Debs85 +, writes (1 March 2007):
I think its important to find out what your partner likes quite often they know what turns them on so sit down and so not to put pressure on her both of you tell each other what you like when it comes to sex. if she doesnt know then have fun experimenting try different things and get her to tell you whats good for her and whats not so good. its all about getting to know what she likes you will find this will bring you closer together. Never presume that what your ex liked your new partner will like because everyones different. tell each other your fantasys because im sure she would love hints about what please you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): hey i have never used to come with my boyfriend and we have sex often what i suggest you do is maybe try new things. Get sex toys i recommend them cos it brings a new element to the deed and it really works
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reader, R71 +, writes (1 March 2007):
It's all in the foreplay. If you do that right, the orgasm is much more likely to follow.
Some foreplay tips then...
1. Girls like to be teased in foreplay. Do everything except the thing that they want. Take your finger for example and run it sensually down her body until you reach her vagina. Then gently (as softly as you can) circle the opening with your finger. Then from time-to-time, flick your finger onto her clitoris or push it inside her. Do not do this too frequently though. Keep the tease going.
2. Some girls like to be stimulated in more than one erogenous zone. For example, gently licking and biting a nipple while doing as described above will drive some women into a frenzy.
3. Explore her body. You will be amazed at how many areas totally drive them nuts: the neck and the ears are always good for stimulation.
During penetration, you can continue to tease her. Pulling out and brushing her clitoris with the tip of your penis or just waiting a few seconds before reentering.
Change the rhythm. Think of sex as a symphony with different movements: a fun and exciting opening, a slow and romantic second movement moving into a dance-like scherzo (ok, getting lost in the metaphor here) and then finally the climax.
I guess what I am trying to say is that if you give as much as you take during sex you will much more likely see the reward of your girlfriend having an orgasm.
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 Hi. Personally I find it far more satisfying when the woman has an orgasm before I do so I can understand the way you feel. However woman are a little different and don't always have to reach climax to enjoy the sex. But this still leaves you wanting to please her. She needs be in touch with her sexual side too, it’s far more a mental thing for the ladies than it is for us. Does she orgasm when she masturbates or does she masturbate? Generally I've found women who have discovered their sexuality and masturbate seem to have easier orgasms during intercourse. As Askeve says lots of foreplay; slow long massages without touching the genitals for a long time to build up the excitement then progressing into the "hot" zone with all fingers and tongue. Teasing her entire virginal area, not only the clitoris at first and then concentrating more and more on this highly sensitive area should work. Remember you must not be in a rush, tell her she has all the time in the world; she may take up to 45 minutes to orgasm when you're giving her oral. After climax she will still be receptive for some time and that’s when you go ahead with penetration. If she goes on top she might even come again. I recommend you guys read two books. "She comes first" & "He comes next" by Ian Kerner. Just goggle the titles and you'll find them available locally even in an audio version which you can download onto your mp3 player. Hope this helps. Have fun!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (1 March 2007):
 My advice to you would be to take your time with her and have lots of foreplay. Don't just dive in there. Giving her plenty oral will do it, explore her genital area with your tongue and give her clitoris plenty stimulation. Don't penetrate her too quickly but concentrate on giving HER pleasure. It does work, trust me! ;o)
Eve
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