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I have a girlfriend and a friend with benefits. What am I going to do?

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Question - (23 August 2013) 7 Answers - (Newest, 24 August 2013)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I think I'm in love with 2 girls. I have a girlfriend but lately I've been getting close with a friend of mines. Myself and my friend are what you could call friends with benefits. She doesn't know that i have a girlfriend though, and I'm starting to fall for her. I don't love my girlfriend any less and nothing has changed between us. I don't know what to do. I feel bad that I'm not being faithful to both of them. Is it wrong to be in love with 2 people?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 August 2013):

Honeypie agony auntThe reason you kept it to yourself that you had a GF/FWB

You need to man up and tell them both, let THEM decide if they want to be with a dog or not.

Would you be OK if your GF was FUCKING someone else on the side?

You know what you are doing is NOT OK and THAT is why you didn't tell either of them, you just basked in all the sex you are getting. Think with the head to the north of your neck. And use some common sense, man. People shouldn't have to spell it out to you that what you are doing is crude.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013):

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Thank you guys for your honest opinions. You've given me a right reality check, now I know what I have to do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013):

The number of people on this site who talk about having two peoole on the go like it's a casual thing is shocking. You remind me of one of my exs, he claimed he didn't see it as cheating! He also said the girl ruined his life because she told me! That is exactly the same mentality as you!

Dump them both, good luck trying find a woman who doesn't mind cheaters.

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A female reader, Intrigued3000 Canada +, writes (23 August 2013):

Intrigued3000 agony auntIf you're trying to find sympathy for your dilemma, you're not going to get it. You are deceiving these two women. There is no integrity in what you are doing, and it really gives insight into your poor character. All I can say is that eventually the truth will come out, and when the **** hits the fan, you better find cover. Hell hath no fury...

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (23 August 2013):

sugarplum786 agony auntYou need to let both these woman go and figure out what you really want. Its not fair to either one of them and if you get caught you just might lose the woman you really love. Its great to have two people stoking your ego but when reality settle you will regret having hurt someone you "cared" for.

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (23 August 2013):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntYes it is wrong and it's not love if you're betraying with of them. It's infatuation. Don't be an arse. How would you feel if your girlfriend had another guy she was screwing ....? Exactly ...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013):

Hi!

You cant have the best of both world's.

Your not Hanna Montana.

I suggest for you to choose one.

cuz you are being unfair to both. that's very jerky.

I don't think your in love with any of them. You are just PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to both.

Love is different. You know when your in love when you can't help, but just be with that person, and other temptation just go away because she's the only one, you wanna be with.

If you cant control yourself, dating both. I suggest for you to stay single, so you don't have to explain to any one why your doing, what your doing.

That way your not being unfair to anyone.

But should the girls find someone better than you, they don't owe you any explanations as well.

I hope u do the right thing.

Your still young and the world is already full of junks.

I mean Men from hell. So, Good Luck.

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