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writes:the girl ive had a crush on since seconded grade is moving to florida this new year what do i do. should i tell her how i feel or forever be quiet and give up on her. if you have any better ideas please tell me. 8/22/13
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 August 2013):
 Why bother????? She's going 1/2 way around the year... and all that CAN happen is that SHE realizes that she had a guy who was really interested in her (you!)... and who she gave no encouragement to............
..... and YOU can convince yourself that you should have a glimmer of hope of getting closer to her (because you told her you are hot for her!)..... but there will now be 3000 miles between you two... as well as the fact that she has never given you and inkling of encouragement....
I vote that you forget her and find another, closer and available, girl for your attentions....
Good luck...
P.S. If she really IS coming here to Florida... she'll get sick of hanging around with us old codgers soon enough... and will coming running back to you (and England) in short order, hoping for find some non-geriatric sensibility in her life!!!!!
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reader, YoungButNotNaive  +, writes (23 August 2013):
 You've got nothing to lose by telling her, so I would do it if I were you. If you don't, you're always going to wonder if she felt the same.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 August 2013):
 Hmmm...
Well, if she's moving then I think you might as well tell her. No need to spend the rest of your life in silence.
However, I don't think that it will stop her from moving!! I doubt that it will turn into a magical movie ending where you watch her moving van drive off into the sunset, you go into your home and then two minutes later the doorbell rings and there she is on the doorstep, "I couldn't leave without giving us a chance", the music crescendos, end credits, etc.
But, it could be that she has mutual feelings, and maybe something will come from it. You could date until she leaves, play at a long distance, maybe you'd be willing to move to FL for a bit... who knows?
Bottom line: why not? And if the feelings aren't mutual - she's moving to FL! No awkward run-ins.
Good luck!!
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reader, miss_nancy183  +, writes (23 August 2013):
 Well telling her is not going to change things. she will still be moving away. I know this is very cliché but its true that old saying listen to your heart. If you think you should tell her because she is moving and you wont get another chance then tell her only if you feel the need to but if you think you should tell her because you genuinely want her to know before she goes than tell her. She may not know how to react to you telling her this before she leaves so don't freak out if you get a strange or awkward reaction. Just tell her that you have had a crush on her since second grade and you know that telling her isn't going to do anything since she is moving, but you don't mind, you just wanted her to know. Oh and make sure it doesn't sound like you want to make her stay or otherwise she may feel pressured and panic. So just follow your heart and tell her how you feel.
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