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writes:Hi everyone.I find myself in a difficult situation. I've just got my first boyfriend, and i really really like him. However i find myself flirting with other guys quite a lot, and i've recently found out that this guy likes me, and starting to feel like i like him back although i barely know him.I don't really know what to do- i feel like it's too early to break up with my boyfriend, but surely if i'm feeling this way it's not right?Is it really unfair of me to act like this? (i am in no ways slutty, don't think that) but my natural instinct is to flirt with boys i find attractive. i just dont think im ready but dont know what to do about it.Please helpthankyou.
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reader, AProblemShared +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Is it ever too early to break-up with someone if you have feelings for someone else? You need to think about how much your boyfriend really means to you and then think whether this guy you barely know is worth risking a perfectly good relationship. Sooner rather than later too, if you do decide to end things with your BF dragging it out will only hurt him more. I hope this helps and I wish you well.
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (26 January 2013):
If you keep flirting with various guys, your bf will get very hurt, which shows you don't really care about him as a person. If you continue to flirt, he will probably drop YOU. It's normal to enjoy attention from others, but if you are a serial flirt you may have a condition called narcissism. Narcissistic people are not usually popular and don't do well in relationships because they are more concerned about what they can get than what they can offer. Another reason people become serial flirts is because they actually have low self-esteem and constantly seek attention. These are some things you might want to find out about yourself before you get into a serious relationship.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Are you younger than 16-17? Because this is such a simple question to answer we will wonder why you needed to ask.
I think you are too young to date or commit to one boy for now.
It's okay. It just means you aren't yet ready for a monogamous committed relationship. It doesn't make you a bad person.
Just let the current boyfriend know that you aren't ready to be in a monogamous exclusive dating relationship. Honesty is your best bet.
Is this a very difficult thing to do, to be honest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't chase.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 January 2013):
When you say you " I've just got my first boyfriend," does that mean you chased this guy until he said 'yes, I'll be your boyfriend,' or does it mean that he chased you until you said 'yes, I'll be your girlfriend'?
It's okay not to be in a relationship if you know you aren't really ready.
Some light flirting is okay provided you are okay with your boyfriend doing the same....
I'm just not hearing that you love having this particular boy be your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat if i like someone more than i like my boyfriend and actually wouldn't be too bothered if he flirted with other girls?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Some people are natural flirts. It is important to know when to stop. You usually stop by saying you have a boyfriend already, then distance yourself from that guy. You are in love with your boyfriend but you will still find other people attractive, even guys who are more attractive than your boyfriend. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with your relationship.
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