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writes:i have no idea where to start,i was married 22 years was in the middle of a divorce,srtarted chatting to this fellow online,we got really close decided we were going to meet, just befour we did, we had an argument,he said he cancelled his flight i said ok i would fly to canada and see my dad,he said he hoped the plane would crash.hoped i would get cancer,i was mortified,but i liked him i forgave him, we meet it was nice,arranged to meet again,but he was involved in a court case with his son,and we spoke he became very abrupt towards me saying i was his\whore and slut,thats what he thought of me,i had fallen in love,and did not know what to do.he asked me to call him or it was over,asked me to send him pictures off me.naked i did,.but new i was doing wrong did not feel comfortable doing it but because i loved him i did,he would be ok one ,min then snap the next, i felt that this man was only after sex,and i wanted him reported and im not sure if i can because i would hate for any woman to go through what i did with him.i went through this 17months of mental cruelty .he keept saying he loved me wanted to be with me,he would make me, not want to be without him but still asked for pic called me unseanly names ,i started to get scared i keept all the text messages and changed my number so he could no longer contact me. can i report this man .he lied about who he was on the net,what he done for a living.please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Wow, I am so sorry you went through this terrible abuse. Count yourself lucky to come out without more harm. There is a web-site womansavers.com that publishes information on men to warn other women. That might be the best you can do to maybe help other women from getting involved with him in the future.
Please be more careful in the future.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 July 2008):
 This is one of the things about internet dating, we never really know who we are talking too, ultimately people can dress themselves up to be whatever they want to be. This guy sounds like a real nut and you are lucky something more serious did not materialise. I bet by the sounds of it he has more than likely got a history of this sort of thing, or even known to the police. I think it would be hard to report him as i would think he did not ever give you his real name. Just thank your stars that you had a lucky escape, he can't contact you now as you have changed your number which is good. Just be extremely carful about who you talk to or meet on the internet because you never know who is typing away on the other end of that keyboard.
Take care x
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Oh my God. He told you he hoped you get cancer, and you fell in love with him?
The whole story makes me feel sick to my stomach.
It's people like him who deserve to get cancer, not all the innocent, decent human beings who die from it every day.
And as for you wanting to report him...For what? Lyingonline, making a complete fool out of you? For giving you 17 months of abuse right from the start which you readily accepted? Do you not think the police would laugh their asses off if you went to them with this story?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I'm glad you did what you did. He was just after the sex, particularly since his identity was false.
I don't think lying on the net can get you banged up, or even charged but for certain of you are terrified, being harrassed and sent all the stuff that he is, you can go to the police. A close friend of mine was sent death threats while in college and the police offered to help her. She refused but she did eventually leave the college - she couldn't stand it.
Go to the police and/or a solicitor who can discuss your options. You shouldn't be put through this. Hoping you got cancer?! Cancer is horrific. No one should wish anyone to be put through that. No one should be put through that...
It's good you kept the text messages. You have evidence. He can't deny that. 17months of mental cruelty?! 17 months is a dangerously long time.
You need to end this. Discuss with someone your options and particularly the police. I am certain they can do something. However, does he live in Canada?! Because that makes things harder to deal with.
The police however can discuss your options...
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