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writes:Please let this question go up i need some help :( Ok a stupid question but please hear me out. How can I make myself feel better for something that I didnt cause? I'll explain.On St Stephens day/Boxing day A guy i was dating for five months stopped texting me and left it to his sister and one of my friends to tell me he met another girl and wanted to get serious with her. I was heartbroken because he meant alot to me. I got so depressed that I had to start counselling ( still going ). But I still was hurting he was my first time and I thought I was special to him we waited 3 months into dating before we did anything. I really believed he was in love with me because I think i fell for him. Anyway I hoped and prayed he could feel the pain he put me through and his girlfriend dumped him and now he seems really down and I feel really bad for him. I feel like its my fault. I haven't spoken to him since Christmas so he doesn't really know how I feel. I don't know what to do I feel so guilty even though technically I did nothing! How do I get over this guilt?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (28 January 2012):
First of all, every girl I know would have felt like you did. You did absolutely nothing wrong by hoping he could understand your heart break. He should have felt that before he broke up with you the way he did.
But I'm sure you're thoughts had nothing to do with him losing his girlfriend. He was not great to you, so karma caught up to him. It happens every time. When you're bad to people, things will be bad to you.
(Also his girlfriend probably realized he'll do it again, so she made sure to do it first. That's the reason, not you.)
Think of it as a good thing for him. He learned that he can't do what he did to you, or this will happen again. It's a good lesson for him so won't repeat his bad behavior.
You should not feel guilty at all because it had nothing to with your thoughts. He did it all to himself.
I really hope this helped. Feel good that he learned a lesson and please stop worrying about this. Good luck.
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