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writes: Earlier I had a huge fight with my crush. He vented to some of his friends and of course the girls (especially his friend Emily, that I think likes him) took his side. They act super protective of him and Emily has done and said things to try to keep me away from him. However I like him alot and know there's a good chance I will run into him at this party. If I go the other girls will probably attack and harrass me and try to make me feel bad and stop me like before, though they are sneaky and somewhat smart about it. Would you go somewhere you are not wanted if there was a chance you could get closer to someone you really cared about and perhaps loved?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 May 2012):
 Is he really worth all this drama? You can't tell me this guy is totally unaware of what "Emily" and Co are doing.... I think he is lapping up all that girl drama over HIM..
Eh..
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 May 2012):
 I'm not going to say either way whether you should go. I'm more interested in this fight you had with this guy. What was it about? Starting arguments with a guy you're interested in isn't exactly how to garner the right attention.
All I'll tell you is this:
1. He can make his own choices about who he likes. You don't have to get into a pecking dominance fight over other girls to gain someone's interest
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2. Do not get addicted to drama. It's easy to get caught up in the "Oh, they won't let me near him" and the fighting of him and them, but if you get used to that as a rule, your life will be a lot more stressful.
Play it cool. If the rest of the world wants to act like immature dogs pissing all over the fire hydrants of high school like nervous chihuahuas, let them. You stay above it. Remain cool, calm, collected, and look upon petty drama with disdain. And DON'T get into arguments to get attention from guys. Negative attention isn't a positive thing, because his view of you will be the negative emotions that arguing causes.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (13 May 2012):
 Yes i would go!
Show these bullies that they cant dictate who you can/ cant speak too.
I've been in your position when i was at school: stand your ground (i know its tough); dont be scared of them and dont let them ruin your fun :)
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