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writes:I'm in a new relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, it's going very nicely. Infact we confessed our true feelings a few days ago and told each other we love each other, we're both so happy :)My concern came about today when I came across some sexual performance tablets of his. I asked if I could borrow something of his and he said it was in his bag, so in the bag I went and I spotted a Jiffy bag with some tablets in. Now I feel so bad for looking inside. Do I need to be concerned? Should I bring it up or would he be embarrassed, or feel he can't trust me? I never purposefully went looking for anything, but I did actually have to put my hand inside the Jiffy bag to see what they were.I'm a little worried for 2 reasons: 1. Are these tablets safe to use? And 2: is he insecure about his performance? He is absolutely great in bed! Hes really the best I've had, I've told him this too. But now he may think its because if te tablets :s Or then again how would I know what he is like without these supplements?What should I do? Also I have had to bring up a number of slight issues recently and he is going through a bad time with stuff at the moment. I do just want to be there for him though, and I am helping him through his problems. What do you guys suggest? Thank you for your time :-)Ps he's only 29 years old
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 August 2014):
 My husband loves his "stiffies" I keep trying to tell him they are doing NOTHING and it's all in his head but he swears he needs them. I agree if they are over the counter that it's mostly placebo effect as the brain is the biggest sex organ there is.
I would ignore it.;.. no need to say anything.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 August 2014):
 A lot of guys have what is referred to as performance anxiety. Sounds like he is concerned there could be a problem and dose not want to disappoint. They're not all that they're advertised to be though so if they don't work he will be double embarassed. Good Luck Don't sweat the small stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2014): Trust me, it's all for your benefit! It's as personal as your tampons. You don't bring it up. If he was hiding them, I doubt he would have let you go through his bag.
He doesn't rely on them. "Performance-enhancing" is more of a claim, than a fact. They're mostly a placebo; but they may just give him a little added confidence and a tingle down there. They have warnings on the label; so if he feels any, he's smart enough to stop using them.
Enjoy the ride!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 August 2014):
 April and June only have 30 days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2014): Ok. Thank you for your reply. What do you mean by 2 of which were short ones though?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 August 2014):
You don't do anything. It's his business not yours. I suggest you sit back and enjoy your budding romance, you've only been together for 4 months, 2 of which were short ones. Relax.
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