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I found out he lied about having a girlfriend, does that mean he isn't serious about her?

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Question - (3 February 2015) 9 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2015)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi Agony people! I met this guy the other day and he seemed nice and chatty. He told me he was a year younger than he actually is too. I asked him on the qt unknownst to him if he had a girlfriend and he sad no. I thought he was geniune and a really nice guy. I found out a few days later that he has a girlfriend of over 6 months. They are on eachother's profile pictures. My question is if he doesnt talk about her in public, is he serious about her? I'm not interested in him that way anymore because as soon as I found out he was taken, the horse blinkers went on as they say and I dont find him attractive anymore but I question his character.

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A female reader, maverick494 United States +, writes (4 February 2015):

Look who cares if he's serious about his gf or not. The point is he's cheating on both of you. That means he's a piece of shit and neither of you should want him. Stop spending energy on analyzing his feelings; he's not worth a nanosecond of your time.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (4 February 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntMultiple questions from you about this....

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-guy-serious-about-his-girlfriend-or.html

you say "i'm not interested in him now" but you are expending a LOT of psychic energy on this... perhaps you are not being honest with yourself???

He may very well be serious about her... the truth is he's not serious about YOU and that's the only thing you have to worry about.

but since you allege you have blinders on then it's really a moot point isn't it?

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A female reader, deirdre Ireland +, writes (4 February 2015):

Nope, he is just an opportunistic asshole, some people see nothing wrong in cheating unfortunately.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2015):

It means he's not serious about you.

Some go on to wed the official partner... that's how 'serious' they can be while cheating unfortunately.

Who knows why

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (4 February 2015):

mystiquek agony auntI'd question his character as well! His actions show that he's on the prowl, and keeping all of his options open. He didn't tell you about the girlfriend because he wanted to see how far he could get with you and he's not above cheating. Not a nice guy.

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (4 February 2015):

You barely know the guy and he has already told you two major lies?

Who cares whether or not he loves her? RUN!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 February 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI too would question his character. Not mentioning a GF to you, doesn't mean he isn't serious about HER. He was just hedging his bets WITH you. As in he felt he had a better chance at getting in your knickers if he didn't mention the GF. Or just getting attention FROM you if he was single.

Same with the lying about his age. I meas seriously, why lie about 1 year? Unless it's because he is still in "2014" mode (which some people can be) then it would be a lie more of a mistake.

Not really a decent fella.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2015):

He's a liar, a player, and looking for sex. It doesn't matter if he's not serious about his girlfriend. He wasn't serious about you; so he lied all the way around. He was carrying on idle-chat to get the digits, and hopefully a booty call.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2015):

You're right to question his character. Lying about her just means he's comfortable cheating.

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