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I finally broke with him and he already has somebody new.

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Question - (18 March 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi just need some advice how do you get over the pain and heartbreak of splitting with someone me and my boyfriend were together over a year I really loved him but he treated me terribly he only came around once a week wanting sex he would go to sleep then get up and go we never went anywhere together not once he always seemed to have a way of talking me round so I finally found the strength to end it with him now he is with someone else how do I deal with this I feel so hurt and angry thank you

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A female reader, CANDY61 United States +, writes (19 March 2012):

I am so proud of you putting an end to this because he didn't love you, you loved him, you should be happy and pat yourself on the back. Never date a guy if he can't spend some time with you, all he wanted from you was sex.

A light should have came on a long time ago when he only came around once a week for sex, go to sleep, get up and leave. You are a young woman so I'm sure you will meet a nice guy that will love you and make you happy. Thank yourself for dumping this piece of $h.. You'll look back later and wonder.. why?? did I put up with this guy so long.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (18 March 2012):

Danielepew agony auntGive it time. This was no boyfriend. One day you will see it and will not regret your having broken up with him.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 March 2012):

Honeypie agony aunt

How do you get over it? By realizing that what you had was not a relationship. It was HIM using you for sex.

Be GLAD he is out of your life and IF he pops up in your life again wanting sex, tell him to go fly a kite!

Chin up and learn from this. DO NOT "date" a guy who doesn't want to BE with you besides for sexual favors. THAT is not what a real relationship is about. In the future, if a guy doesn't respect you don't take a year to figure it out and put a stop to it.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (18 March 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI strongly agree with Worldlywise... he was no boyfriend.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012):

I wouldn't call him a boyfriend at all, he was a man who used you purely for sex,you were a booty call. He disrespected you and you let him.

Ofcourse you feel angry, he's made a fool of you. He didn't care. You should be grateful and proud you had the strength to put a stop to the arrangement.

You deal with it by feeling sorry for whoever he is with now. By promising yourself you will NEVER let a man treat you like this again. You hold your head up and get out there and get on with your life.

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