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*arthangel165
writes:I just got over the crush i had for the last 8 months. It ended really horribly. Now i feel really depressed and sad. When i usually have a crush on someone i feel so happy. But my school has no great guys other then the one i just got over and all my guy friends are like "if only i met you 2 weeks earlier then my gf i would be dating you" I havent had a bf for about...8 months and i really miss the feeling of having someone be there for me. I just need advice on how to become that same happy flirty person without having a crush on someone. Is there anyway for that to happen? Cuz i feel like my friends are noticing my sadness and i dont want to worry the too much.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 You don't have to depend on others to make yourself happy. You can be happy whatever state you are in ,be it single or attached.
It is a matter of changing your perspective. Look at life from another angle and see the joys of being single where you can do anything you want and flirt with anyone you want.
If your school don't have the right boys, you can broaden your horizon and go to other schools or be more visual in your society.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2010):
If you are feeling depressed because you don't have a crush on someone, then you need to address your own insecurities. You're relying on others to bring you happiness rather than attempting to make it yourself. Naturally after a break up, you'll feel bad. But it's important that you work on your own happiness before you get another guy in your life, or you'll find yourself picking the wrong men just so you can try to be happy. So go out with friends, have fun and focus on yourself for now.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 The great guys are usually found where you least suspect it. They usually don't like to be out in the open all the time. Hang out with your friends and be with the people you want to be around and the flirty attitude will come out of the confidence of the group.
It takes some time for a good guy to come around so try to be patient because they will show up. Until then go out, dress up, have fun and remember that a great guy will come into your life in time and you'll be cute and ready for him.
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