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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together 2 and a half years. we always been one of the closest couples you can meet. the last few months he doesn't seem to talk to me as much or want to be around me, almost as if he's fallen out of love with me. over our time together i have paid for alot of things, rent for a workshop, cars, car parts, insurance: he is a mechanic and wants to run a garage of his own and i have been working to help him achieve this. but at the same time i have ambitions of my own that i need money to achieve.Its starting to feel like he's with me because he feels like he owes me. whenever he comes to my house hes always on the computer or a games console. we used to spend so much time together.I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 What is problem in your post? Say, nothing. Everything sound as it is expected. Nothing beyond expectation...and is real problem. Or, no expectation is biggest problem you are facing in your relationship.
And, I have point to say you, as advise. Really lot of materials I have for communication, but I will say in terms of principle or theory, and you have to obtained your guidance.
Romance is missing in your relationship, is biggest problem. It is erotic romance, that has power to keep relationship alive, and in turn live relations will make life totally alive. Then, you will have no time to count, how much your did for him, or how much money your inc cured for him.... Your feeling would be different, if 'eroticism' is pursed.
I advise you to learn about nature of erotic life, and being to reorganize your relationship, which in turn will fill your life with new air, new breath, and all vibrant.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Wow, I don't know really how to answer this. But here's what I think, after some time, relationships sort of settle down and become a little less excting than they used to be. Think of initiating more date nights, little outings, don't leave it up to him to plan out when, if, and how you guys spend time together. If you guys are intimate, try to get some sexy surprises going too. Surprise him. Have some movie nights and cuddle together on the couch. Cook dinner together. Little things like that reinforce the relationship. As for the support you've been giving him, all I can say is: do not let his dreams get in the way of yours. You sound like a loyal, sweet, and supporting person so you may think this sounds selfish, but that's how it has to be. I'm not saying you shouldn't help him out. But if you do, just make sure you don't sacrifice yourself in the process. I had a friend who put her career on hold and supported her boyfriend's for five years, and then, they broke up and now, she has to work harder to get where she wants to be. So please, be careful.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 February 2010):
Owes you? Maybe he stays with you because you pay for a lot of things and he thinks he can get a free ride. I think you need to talk to him about this, and stop paying for everything. You're a good, kind girlfriend, but don't be taken for a ride.
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