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writes:Hi!!I am a Pakistani muslim girl. My problem is that my life is in turmoils right now. Nothing seems to go right even with my family members. Everyone has their own problems. It started when i got divorced a year back. It was the first marriage in my family and we r still in shock. I feel so bad all the time. The thing is my ex husband and his family ruined us all. Nothing happened between the two of us. I am still a virgin. I have two younger sisters and one elder brother. He is recently married and is happy. Now its just us sisters and my parents are so depressed because they can't find any good respectable guys to marry us off. Another problem is with me. I am sick of wedding and marriages. The idea of getting married agin makes me sick. But it is necessary because i am not ambitious or anything. I just want to be happy. I am doing PhD right now but halfheartedly. I just dont wanna do anything. I know it sounds unrealistic but that how i feel. Also i don't want to be burden on my family and i dont want to get married to a bigger jerk than my previous husband. I know i sound pathetic. But right now i feel like my life is cursed or something. Nothing appeals to me anymore. Am i going crazy?? Please someone help me!!!
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reader, melomat  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 hie there be happy that is the most important thing. what you're going thru i went thru worse. i was made pregnant and the guy married me and went to england then after 6 months he left me. i lived for 2 years in my mothers house with my son you can imagine the embarassment. people laughed at me then i met this guy we dated for three years and we married last year. he makes me very happy and he loves my son. is your situation as bad as mine was. cheer up life is so precious you cant ruin it on account of previous events. just be patient and Pray to God even you'll be suprised the things that will come
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reader, Boy Blue  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi there,
Try not to lose hope or the power in yourself. That is the one thing you should not lose. You have made it this far in life, why stop now? You still are able to do your PhD and that is something great that many are not able to do. Try not to worry about things that could have been or things that will be. You are forgetting the most important things that you have which is the present and what you DO have. It is easy to take the things we have for granted. I know things seem hopeless now but even a good future comes with hard work and overcoming your burdens. It is only natural you "feel" pathetic but you ARE NOT pathetic. DO not down yourself. Your parents are trying their best to give their children good lives so you must try your best too! Things COULD BE so much worse! Please, just shake yourself back together and keep going head first into life, you are still young!
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