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16-17,
anonymous
writes:i feel like everything is going downhill for me at the moment.me and my mum keep falling out, and i mean proper massive arguments about stupid things that i have or havent done.and my love life is even worse.if i'm honest, i'm lonely.i havent had a relationship since last august, i mean, i've been seeing people since, but never had a proper boyfriend.very recently me and this boy i've known for a while got to like eachother, and i knew he had a girlfriend, but he told me he was going to break up with her, and we met up and we kissed and stuff (!), and now he wont answer my texts or messages on facebook or talk to me on msn.i dont see why if he wants to stay with his girlfriend he told me aload of rubbish in the first place.i just feel like every boy i like and likes me back ends up playing me or using me, and people always say, you'll find the right person when the time comes, but if i'm honest i just want somebody to love me. i've not exactly done anything to deserve this..
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reader, sofiamorgan +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Yeah I know it’s a pain when you feel like you do now, but it doesn’t go on I can promise you that.
Ok lets deal with one thing at a time, you say that you feel lonely. We all feel lonely at times, but you don’t always have to feel that way. Fill up your time with your friends, go and see them, go out to lunch. But don’t forget its always good to have time to yourself so you can catch up with you.
Having a relationship isn’t the number one priority in life, you are. You have to look after yourself, once you start to do that then the other things will just start to slide into place. There are guys who are A**holes and who don’t treat you well, but hey guess what there are also guys who are nice and kind and who will look after you.
Ok you and your mum falling out, it happened to me with my mum but you know what we sat down and we had a huge talk talking about everything and we both compromised a bit and realised that arguing was silly when we could just talk in through.
You have NOT done ANYTHING wrong. You must understand that.
If you want to talk more message me.
Chin up, it will get better in the end…honest.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Calm down there.You make it sound like life is already over!Wise Woman.. is right, joins clubs or go places that interest you....that way you stand a better chance of not just meeting new people, but people who share your interests; people you can relate to.It's a sad fact of life, but if you don't do anything about it then you will always be lonely...new friends won't come to find you; you have to go to find them.Every teenager has bad experiences with their parents. Help around the house; do some cleaning, washing up or a bit of cooking. You'll have to do it sooner or later anyway when you get out into the big wide world...you may as well start now!! Your mum will likely respect more for helping her if you do things like that and then go easy on you.Don't worry so much about relationships at your age. Teenage boys are usually immature anyway and don't know what "love" is; although neither I suspect do you.It will all come naturally later in life. There ain't no rush!
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reader, lilly123 + ♥, writes (3 August 2008):
 Everyone goes through this its all part of growing i went through the exact same thing you are going through now and it will get better eventually things just seem a lot worse than they really are right now.Message me if you want to talk.
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reader, Wise Woman of the FOREST! +, writes (3 August 2008):
 It was only the one boy.
Perhaps you should just walk away from the arguments between you and your mum and do what shes told you. Believe me it does help.
For the boy-situation I'm afraid you can't pick the good ones I expect he is just feeling guilty and if you want to get back at him for using you, I suggest you tell his girlfriend, however if you do you will get yourself into trouble with her. Also if he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you it shows that he could do it to you. Give up on him, hes a user.
I would join a club or something to meet new people, then you would share the same hobbies and hopefully he will be true to you.
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