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I don't want to hurt him, but staying doesn't seem very fair either.

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Question - (27 April 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *asierToFallThanToForget writes:

I don't want to hurt him, but staying doesn't seem very fair either. What should I do?

Okay, so me and this guy were dating for about seven and a half months before we eventually had some issues and we broke up. Not long after, i started dating this other guy, a friend of both mine and my ex's. Unfortunately, i wasn't over my ex just yet, i was upset and felt like i was being replaced by another girl and it made me act rather rash. I agreed to date the friend because i knew he liked me, i was hurt and i figured what would it hurt if i give him a shot. I've realized however that me and him are much better as friends. something he hasn't gotten. to top it off me and my ex have been talking and we want to give it another shot. we just don't want to hurt him. To top it off, i'm a senior this year and i have prom. something i said id go to with the friend-turned-bf but that isn't until the end of may.

what should i do? I don't want to hurt my current bf, but it doesn't seem fair to string him along.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (27 April 2010):

Well sadly you're going to hurt him. End it gently by explaining that you feel that you're not the girl for him, give it some time and then if you really think you want your ex back, go to him. Be warned though, that all the problems you had with your ex will still be there. So think carefully about whether you really want him back. But you must let this other guy go and find someone who does want him.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 April 2010):

Honeypie agony aunt"You are damned if you do and damned if you don't. "

Which means... no matter what you do, you are bound to hurt your current boyfriend. I would just be honest and take it as it comes. You HAVE to own your own actions and your feelings.

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