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writes:A very close friend of mine just broke up with her boyfriend of nearly three years and she's freaking out because she can't remember how to be single. (By the way, their break-up is justified because he's a crazy, sort of Edward Cullen-type with a knack for flirting with other girls, being highly depressed, and thoroughly pissing her off at times.) The guy is basically my ex (they were best friends at one point), only it wasn't as easy for her to get rid of him. She's lost in her mind right now and I'm trying so desperately to help her. I have this nagging feeling that she's going to go back to him and I can't allow that... for HER sake. I didn't have the advantage of a friend that could help me out every second of the day and night and that's why it took me longer than usual for me to get over my ex. I was even suicidal for a couple months; I refuse to let her go through that! Some advice would be great. Thanks to anyone who can help.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 April 2009):
That sounds like possibly the best idea ever.
Do it!
( and can I come, it sounds fun! ;o) )
She's really lucky to have a friend like you. Treat yourself as well!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much, Emily! I really appreciate your answer! I will definitely implement those into the "schedule". She has video games, game consols, a little jewelry, and clothes that could be totalled to about $700. I'm going to try to get her to sell it all and then take her to New York City during Fleet Week and surround her with strong military guys that will likely flirt with her until her eyes cross. And then taking her to buy her (and my) very first Gucci bags (neither of us are into brand names but every girl has to have one). Does that sound like an okay thing to do?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2009):
She has to go through some form of heeling but as you say, she's very lucky to have you to remind her that being a single girl is AWESOME.
Go round to her place, chuck out every reminder of him, or better, sell it and use the money to go out and have fun.
Take her shopping and buy things that she loves but he would hate.
Take her out and point out all the guys who are looking at her.
Find out what he did for her round the house and help her put new routines in place.
Seriously, the only thing you need a man for around the house is to open tight jar lids, and I just take mine to a neighbour's house. Everything else you can do yourself.
Remind her how much he was a dick and how much more fun you can have being single and having holidays away together and being in charge of your own life.
Good Luck!! xx
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