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writes:hiok so me and my boyfriend have been together about a year now...the problem is i am utterly jealous of his ex girlfriend.they don't speak anymore... it ended on bad terms but i still find that i compare myself to her. I have seen photographs of her and compare us on looks... i think she is way prettier than me.but its not just that... they were together six years and i always think stupid things like... I wonder if he still thinks of her a lot or like this thing we have where we eskimo kiss to say goodbye... i always wonder if he did that with her.i am an extremely insecure person and although their relationship did end on bad terms, it doesnt stop me from feeling as though im second best (only way i could think of putting it).i also don't think he is completely over her and it worries me.any people who have been in the same situation or just any advice whatsoever will help me greatlythank you xxx
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Have you discussed this with your boyfriend? I know this may seem obvious but you should tell him how you feel. Just don't rehash it or your insecurity could drive him away.
Why do you believe that he still has feelings for her?
He's not with her anymore, he's with you. It sounds to me like he's moved on since they broke up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I am the ex in a relationship like yours and I wouldn't be surprised if his girl feel the same towards me. My ex and i ended our relationship in bad terms being that I confronted his girl and told her that he was still seeing me. I'll tell you, sometimes it doesn't end in bad terms. my ex was quick enough to call me back for sex. He didn't even care how she would feel. Till this day, he calls. I know that he might still see her once in a while, but he uses the child to know what's going on in my life during his absence.
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reader, hotie  +, writes (29 June 2009):
Honey, you seem to have alot of issues which you need to work on before it affects your relationsip and more in future.
Your boyfriend's ex looks is nothing, if looks was all that counts he would still be with her. Focus on what you have now not the past.
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reader, mart36 +, writes (29 June 2009):
I wouldnt claim to know everything but an insecurity like you have will drive him away.You should be proud to be who you are , confident he want to be with you ! dont carry on this way or you will lose him Respect yourself a bit more too Mart
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