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anonymous
writes:I have being dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and everything was well untill when i found out last year that when i was away to another country for a month he started flirting with another girl.When i got back he was totally changed and deep inside i knew there was something wrong. I checked his phone oneday and found out messages and calls to this other girl,so i took her number and called her. The girl told me my boyfriend told her that he broke up with me and that i was not over him thats why hes sometimes chilling with me.She also told me he brought her at our home when i was away and she found my photos on the table but the guy created stories. I was too disapointed. the first 4 times i asked him he denied untill when i told him everythin the girl told me and so he confessed and said he was sorry. Since i love him i tried to forgive but honestly untill now i just feel the same pain when i think about it. 3 weeks after finding out about the issue..,i found some emails from my bestfriend that they were so flirty and the dates were 2 years ago. Its just confuding. I thought everything was okay but things were going on. he told me he was just playing with her and nothing really happened. I really felt more awful. pliz give me advice out there. I dnt know how to feel
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Well at least he is trying however I am not going to lie to you it is going to be very hard for you to be able to trust him again, and off course you cant help still loving him. He has been your boyfriend for a long time. I guess the decision is yours. Maybe give yourself a few more months to see if you can learn to trust him again. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Aunty honesty...he has tried to be on hes best and told me something like that will never happen again and he said he really loves me and cant afford to see me get hurt again. SO since the start of this year i havent heard or seen any cheating issue. But its hard to trust him again and its just hurts and unfair when i think about what happened and bad enough i still love him. I am just confused!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 April 2011):
If am honest with you I dont think this guy is to be trusted. He cheated on you and flirted with your best friend in the middle of your relationship. He denied it to you until he knew you had the truth so I think it would be incredibaly hard for you to ever get that trust back. Without the trust there is no relationship because you will never be happy. Has he tried to work really hard on earning the trust back?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 i will tell you from experience once trust is betrayed it is never earned back... it just can't be.
feel betrayed
feel lied to
feel angry
move on if you can.
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