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writes:I discovered recently that my wife worked as a high-priced prostitute, two years prior to our meeting. She was desperate for money at the time. She says she's been thoroughly tested and does not have any communicable diseases. Further, she deeply regrets this action on her part. But, she tells me that she would have lost her house and car if she didn't come up with the money. She continued doing this for eight months until she found a new job. The other reason she stopped was she was arrested - she was about to have sex with a policeman. She pled guilty and did 60 days in jail. This was a felony conviction, and, since then, she's had a difficult time getting better jobs. Plus, she received much unwanted publicity in the papers. I only found out about this from a friend who recognized her - he knew some one who was her client. Apparently, she tended to meet clients in a dance club. I'm pretty shocked by it all, and, although she never lied to me about it, she did not tell me about it voluntarily either. I'm afraid that I will meet others that know this story. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): i think this one is a phony.....hooking is not a felony. high priced hookers work with screened clients who usually have to provide two picture IDs. Cop don't infiltrate these unless there is a tie in with bigger crimes: dope, extortion, blackmail etc. usually the only time cops get involved with high end prostitution is if someone famous gets connected with that particular service.. hell, street hookers only get busted when there is an election coming up and the sheriff or mayor need to show how tuff they are on crime. or if the area where they work is trying to turn ritzy and bring in money people to work or live in the area. also, dance clubs, strip joints keep working girls out out out. cops are always working the clubs looking for a reason to close them down....you know..election time. or they are being pressured by the local bluenose churches.
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reader, andylee +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Don't wory about it. My wife was a call girl (Top dollar) for almost 5 years. She started in college and did it for almost 3 years after. I met her thru a former client who developed a platonic relationship w/ her after wards. She started at 20 years old and quit after her 25 BD. Except for a once a year superbowl party she does w/ another woman ever year that pays 10G for the day. We actually go married after graduation & we both worked 2 jobs saving for a house on the water. She got into marketing and did the call girl thing at night. Mostly 3-4 calls a week. Sometimes more like 5-6 & sometimes less. Never did more than 1 person a night. She probably had sex w/ over 600 guys (and a few women) and had many repeat clients. As soon as we had enough money we bought our dream house outright. No mortgage, only property taxes. She ran into a small number former clients over the past few years but it was never an embrrassing situation.
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reader, pixeydust +, writes (29 April 2008):
 So she has a shady past, so has my boyfriend, but like I tell him his past is in his past. If she has had herself checked for deseases, I say to drop it. If you are married then she had to have herself checked before you got married. Remember her past is her past, don't fault her for that. Enjoy your life together.
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reader, rproctor +, writes (29 April 2008):
Man... I know things are supposed to be left in the past... But somethings could be about impossible to get over. You know, this is really up to you. Some people could over look it, some people cant. If you think that you could, then you should give it a shot. Me... However... I could never get the images out of my head of my wife getting paid to fuck other men... Regardless of when it happened to her... It would be something that would haunt me forever, and I would never be able to over look it... Im probably not helping though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I agree with Danielepew, what matters is who she has been to you.
I've been with prostitutes, and personally, I have no problem with either party. I do have a problem that the act causes a felony charge, if anything, it should be just a slap on the hand.
There is no getting around the fact that she will be noticed. Have you both looked into having the charge wipe off her record? Have you considered moving to another state?
As mentioned, many of us have done things we wished we hadn't of done latter, but that is what life is about, learning right from wrong, to improve ourselves and also to stand up for each other and provide support and assistance if we can.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I assume that your wife is approximately of your same age.
From all appearances, this happened a very long time ago. It will seem lame, but I think you should focus on who she has been since she was with you. If she's been a good wife, that is what counts.
Maybe people will be horrified for what I will say, but I don't care. It is very easy to forget that prostitutes have feelings, too, and to think that we owe them no respect at all. I remember one post, in which one person said "she's human, not a whore", as if whores weren't human. We believe that prostitutes can't love anyone, can't fall in love, could be no worse than others, after all is said and done.
Your wife sold sexual services, and men bought them. In my eyes, both are equally guilty.
I can imagine how difficult it will be, but, if I were you, I would go on and focus on who she's been all this time.
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Everyone has a past although, some are more colorful than others. I believe that a person's past should never be a factor in how they are viewed in the present. People change, and situations arise, and people do what they feel they need to do. Do you love your wife? If you love her, you will leave the past where it belongs and let her do the same. She has obviously been trying to do just that.
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