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I am currently a 30 year mother of 2 (son and daughter) that has had a rough background with men. I am currently in another relationship, a very nice, respectful man that respects women and doesn't talk or treat them like a peace of meat like so many of the younger kids do now-a-days. I just want to help anyway that I can, I've gotten alot into this 30 year old head. LOL. As for my advice, I guess you can be the judge of that.

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's been abusive for 2 years.

Q.   We started off happy, but then he became homeless so I was there for him, I slept outside with him some nights even in his car. I didn't want to leave him alone, we stayed at my parents a lot which is when they started disliking him. For 2 years ...

A.   29 April 2008: God!! This sounds just like me and my ex's relationship!! He was never in and jail though...He always knew how to abuse me without leaving bruises though. I got pregnant when I was 16 and I had the first child when I was 16 (got married at 16) had ... (read in full...)

Will he get in trouble?

Q.   I am 16 years old. The man that I am in love with is 27. I live in the state of Maine and it said I could be/do anything with anyone over the age of 21 with parental consent. But he is still concerend that he can end up in jail. Can he still go to ...

A.   29 April 2008: I was 16 when I got pregnant. I live in OK. My parents signed the papers so that the two of us could get married (he was 19, so I was still a minor) he didn't get into trouble for it. They consented to the marriage. As long as they don't press ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is in jail for abusing his sister when she was younger... Am I stupid for staying with him?

Q.   Well, my boyfriend is in jail now. He has been in there for almost 7 months. His sister called the cops and told them that he raped her ever since she was 8 and he was 10. Of course, i didnt believe her, but he is in jail, but then again, all the ...

A.   29 April 2008: GET OUT! I was with my now ex and he was abusive to his mother and he was abusive to me. He hit me kicked me and choked me. He kept me up late at night and wanted to have sex with me and wouldn't let me go to sleep until he got what he wanted. I had ... (read in full...)

My mum won't be there for my baby's birth. Am I over reacting?

Q.   I am having a scheduled c-section next FRI. because the baby is breech. My mom is not going to go. She said that she will just come by after work, she works in the same area as where the hospital is. But I am having the surgery at 10 a.m. and she ...

A.   29 April 2008: You completely have the right to feel the way that you do. She should be more supportive of you, now more than ever. This is when you need her the most and she isn't there for you, but she is there for your sister and your brother. Apparently there ... (read in full...)

I discovered my wife's embarrassing history! What now?!!

Q.   I discovered recently that my wife worked as a high-priced prostitute, two years prior to our meeting. She was desperate for money at the time. She says she's been thoroughly tested and does not have any communicable diseases. Further, she deeply ...

A.   29 April 2008: So she has a shady past, so has my boyfriend, but like I tell him his past is in his past. If she has had herself checked for deseases, I say to drop it. If you are married then she had to have herself checked before you got married. Remember her ... (read in full...)

Pregnant with my cheating boyfriend's baby! Should I have it?

Q.   me and my boyfriend are having alot of issues right now.right after Valentines Day I found out that he cheated on me. he treated me like crap for awhile then we tried to work things out. Things arent the same, but we tried to work on them. I just ...

A.   28 April 2008: I got pregnant at 15 or 16 (got pregnant around my birthday) and got married at 16, had the baby at 16. Had another baby almost a year later. I am now 30 had another baby last year. I gave that one up for adoption. You have to consider what is best ... (read in full...)

Does anyone else have a fantasy about being watched while having sex?

Q.   I have these fantasies of another man and\or woman watching me and my boyfriend making love, is this nonsense or is this a turn on for you as well?...

A.   28 April 2008: Thank God all of you have been so nice...I thought someone somewhere would call me a freak or something, just to be rude. LOL... (read in full...)

How do I bring up my rape fantasy with him?

Q.   How do I bring up my rape fantasy? I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, I trust him and love him but i'm a little scared about how to tell him i have a rape fantasy. He's told me his other fantasies and we do some pretty outrageous sexual a...

A.   25 April 2008: Technically it wouldn't be "rape" cause you can't rape the willing. I think that you are just wanting him to take charge. I want my boyfriend to do the same. I want him to surprise me, when he comes home from a vacation or work I want him to come ... (read in full...)

He wants me to tell him my fantasies but I have no idea where to start or what to say!

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend and I have a slightly skewed kind of relationship; in that we can talk and share our secrets quite easily with each other and we both enjoy sex with each other, but that's kind of the only intimacy existing here. I'm 21 and this is ...

A.   25 April 2008: If you love him, let him know have a sincere talk with him, look him in the eyes and let him know you mean what you are telling him. Show him the affection that you feel while you are in the bedroom and make him feel that you love him and his body. ... (read in full...)

Are fantasies of being with Another Person OK when you're making love?

Q.   Can someone give me some feedback on what you think about sexual fantasies; I mean from the point of view of a man or a woman thinking of someone else in order to get turned on when making love to their partner? Do you think this is okay? Do you re...

A.   25 April 2008: If you they are thinking of someone else in your place, I wouldn't say that is good, but I don't think that is what was meant by your question, but by the last answer, that kinda sounds like what was meant. Anyway from the way I took the question ... (read in full...)

Why is my sister so obsessed with wanting to look like me??

Q.   Hi everyone this isn't really a love problem but you are always so helpful that maybe you can help me with this this: Ok my older sister (she's 26 i'm 21). She tries to look like me, i just got a fringe cut in and now she's asking where i got it d...

A.   25 April 2008: Usually isn't the younger sister that looks up to the older sister, but in your case it sounds like the roles are reveresed, which isn't so abnormal. I look up to my sister (even though she is younger than I am). I got married at a young age, had ... (read in full...)

He's told me that oral sex is something that he looks at as degrading and I've never had someone that loves me as he does - other guys feel this way?

Q.   I'm in a relationship with a very wonderful guy. We compliment each other very well and have a very healthy relationship and can talk freely about any issues we have or feelings that need to be resolved. But there's one problem -- I can't understand ...

A.   24 April 2008: My boyfriend is like this as well. The way that he looks at it is that men use women for sex (i.e. prostitution and most websites have women on them, which men pay for) women are portrayed to be sluts or hoes and therefore, coming with that are ... (read in full...)

How do I know I am pleasing my partner by oral or manual stimulation?? Should I abstain from doing this for fear of failing?...

Q.   My question is how do I know if I am pleasing the guy that I am giving a blow job or hand job to? doing And should I be too scared to even do it because I think that they won't like the way I am doing it? Also I need advice on how to give the ...

A.   24 April 2008: Just watch his reaction to what you are doing. As for the BJ, my BF likes for me to go down as far as I can on him and then slide back up the shaft slowly. I also like to run my tongue around him while I am going back up. If you want to know more ... (read in full...)

Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?

Q.   when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...

A.   24 April 2008: I love to swallow. I love watching his reaction. He is always making the remark that he loves to cum down my throat, and I don't mind it. I love going down on him until he can't hold back any longer and I swallow. He doesn't taste bad...in my ... (read in full...)

Survey: how old were you when you performed your first fellatio, did you choose a special person and did you like it from the very beginning?

Q.   I have question for you women and girl on this site: How old were you when you gave your first blowjob? The reason I ask is that I went to high school in a small town in the 1970s, before oral sex was known. So I am curious as to when to when girls ...

A.   24 April 2008: I was probably 15 or 16, he never came in my mouth, because I wouldn't let him. That was with my ex husband, which was about 8 years ago. My current boyfriend, loves it when I go down on him. I enjoy making him feel good and the time alone together ... (read in full...)

We haven't had sex but I'd like some advice on blowjobs!

Q.   Well I have been dating this guy for about 6 months we have not had sex yet and I want to give him a blowjob but I dont know how to do it!! So will you please giv me sum advice on how to do it PLEASE!...

A.   24 April 2008: Contact me when you're 18 and believe me you're boyfriend will appreciate it, but sweetie you're too young right now. So when you're 18 contact me and I'll tell you all about it and then you can use all my tricks, until then find something better to ... (read in full...)

Where to have sex? - we aren't allowed to hang out when our parents aren't at home!

Q.   Okay well im 15 and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. It's not a long time, i know. But its a long time for me, anywayss(: We've done a lot of "sexual" stuff, but not actual sex. He fingers me and touches my boobs and stuff and i give him ...

A.   24 April 2008: In my opinion you should wait....period. I am one of those "stupid" ones and I got pregnant at 15(almost 16) and I now have a son and daughter (they are now 13 and 14 and I am 30). I was in an abusive relationship. You may say that you are not ... (read in full...)

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