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I didnt get an answer, should I approach him again?

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Question - (1 January 2020) 8 Answers - (Newest, 2 January 2020)
A male United States age , anonymous writes:

Hi, male in my late fiftys, always been by curious, never been with a male before, a woman friend has a gay friend,well I ask him straight up, if he interested in having sex , told him I was a virgin, he said he has been, staying away from sex for while, she told me he only likes younger men,he is about fifty, really didn't get answer one way or another. Should I approach him again.

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A female reader, Dionee' South Africa +, writes (2 January 2020):

Dionee' agony auntThe answer is no. Respect it.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (1 January 2020):

N91 agony auntYou did get your answer. It was a very clear no!

If he wanted to accept your proposal you guys would have had sex. He was being polite about it now leave him alone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2020):

He likes younger-men, so why bother? You're only curious, and maybe he prefers someone young, gay, and sure of it; not someone open to queer-experimentation. Best to find a willing guinea pig!

When it comes to sex, take a noncommittal-reply as NO! It applies to both genders!

Nothing is better than mutual-consent. It's a win-win situation; rather than trying to convince someone to want what you want. You know most people well over 40 are set in their ways!

Just because he's gay doesn't mean he's indiscriminately-attracted to men!

If you didn't know that, now you do!

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (1 January 2020):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntWow! Classy chat-up line! Not! Would you have approached a woman in the same way?

This guy is gay. He is not a rent boy.

Show some respect and leave him alone. You are lucky he didn't deck you for such a rude approach. Just because he is gay does not mean he is a guinea pig for your curiosity.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2020):

Why would you think any person in their right mind would be won over by that approach?

I'm with the others, he gave you his answer, you just didn't accept it because your ego won't let you,

No matter what sexuality, that approach will never work with any self respecting person.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 January 2020):

Honeypie agony auntNo, you got your answer.

He turned you down in the most polite way he could. Accept and respect that.

JUST because he is gay doesn't mean he will want to have sex with any Tom, Dick or Harry.

You might not BE someone HE is interested in.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (1 January 2020):

Aunty BimBim agony auntNo! He has politely brushed you off, quite frankly your approach is assuming and intrusive. If you are so keen to try sex with another male find a male prostitute and pay for it. At least that way the other participant will be getting something out of it.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (1 January 2020):

Aunty BimBim agony auntNo! He has politely brushed you off, quite frankly your approach is assuming and intrusive. If you are so keen to try sex with another male find a male prostitute and pay for it. At least that way the other participant will be getting something out of it.

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