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writes:Hello all,Just over a week ago, I was at a funeral for my children's grandmother on their father's side. We have been divorced 7 years now, he's remarried and all is good.So, I was re-acquainted with everyone, including one of my nephew's (by former marriage), I'll call him Terry for now. He's been involved with someone else for over a year, though they are not married. They were and have been having issues (she is physically abusive and he tends to drink a bit too much) but anyway, it was good to see Terry. He ended up going to the funeral with my kids and me, since his gf was being a bi*ch and did not want to take him nor go there. Whatever, right?So, here's the deal: on the way to the funeral he opens up about how much of a crush he's always had on me (I'm sure you can see where this is all leading at this point, right?). Well, nothing happened other then heavily discussing what COULD happen, etc. Then he gets a text from he: she's leaving him. We stop at a gas station and I got out to go to the bathroom to find him only slightly upset this news. I went to hug him and he looks at me intensly, then moves to kiss me. Believe me, it was totally welcome. We've always had a sort of strong chemistry going on, but when I was with his uncle I just never would give into that, you know what I mean? He continued to tell me about all the times he wanted me, etc. And here we were, going to the funeral. Yikes! In fact, we were 10 minutes late. All eyes were on us and there had only been a kiss!What happened next? Well, we went to the funeral and then on the way back, we let loose the kracken, so to speak. With my kids asleep mind you...we messed around in my truck. All of it leading up to the grand finale that night when he went back to my hotel room with me. Amazing, in a word. And he was already broken up with what I will call the Moose, so there you have it.So, the next morning he was really quiet but discussed possibly coming back with me. I informed him that I have a business to run, go to school full time and have two full time kids. He was really quiet all the rest of the way back to where his parents live (remember, he drove with us to the funeral then to the hotel in my truck!). But hey, I did tell him that I suspected he needed to work some things out with the Moose before he even considered something like starting over again, not to mention I was thinking about the old "frying pan into the fire" deal, AND add to the fact that he and I are what Ashton Kutcher is to Demi Moore, age-wise. I know, it's just a number...but still!!!So, here's the deal: I cannot get him out of my head. Furthermore, I know his parents had went to see him and the Moose (he want back to her and his job, which makes sense somewhat) -- she (his mother) even asked him how he was. His answer was that he is "as happy as I can be for now". He did NOT tell her about our dalliance, but I did, last night. I did not want anything to be between us and she already knew and totally understood what happened (the grief thing came to mind to me, too) however, she is not happy that he is unhappy and though she did not say in so many words, she did not suggest she'd be entirely unhappy if he and I were to "get together" again. Add to the fun: I am moving onto their property (the parents) since I will be renting a home from them in order to fullfill my dreams of being a teacher. Sheesh! If he's still with the Moose, I'll be four hours away. I can't stand it, I mean what I am feelign for Terry. And I did get a text from him telling me that he missed me. I did not response, thinking that the Moose might read it and besides, I don't parlay that game: They WERE broken up, technically when the dalliance occured, remember?That all said, it's going to get complicated, I'm sure, especially once I am there and on the property. If I know Terry, he'll make it a point to come down. He's got to be wondering why I had not re-texted him. Furthermore, probably curious as to why I am moving there "all of a sudden", though he did not know I got the teaching job there. I mean, there is a lot that he does not know about me and quite frankly, I don't mind keeping it that way. I guess what I am trying to solicit from all of you is A.) What do you think about this situation? B.) What do you FEEL is going to happen? and finally C.) Do you think I'm completely bonkers for having even given into my lust for him (I had not been with anyone for at least 5 years and to have someone with that I have that much chemistry with come on to me like that was extremely potent, let me tell you!!!)I really am trying hard to focus on life at this point, but the though of him is driving me crazy.Please help!Lost in the Desert...soon to be Back on the Rez
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (13 May 2009):
 A river will always flow along the path of least resistence. Are you the river or the dam that prevents this flow?
A. The timing seems to be right
B. If you do not act on this you will always wonder
C. I think you would be bonkers NOT to pursue this.
I don't think he is playing any games. I think he sincerely likes you.
BE the river CougarMama, be the river!
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