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female
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anonymous
writes:I have been dating a guy for about 8 months, during the 4th month of our relationship I found out that he had a girlfriend. I continued dating him, since he said that it was not anything serious with him and the other girl. Well, recently his girlfriend sent me a text message informing me that she was 7 months pregnant and that they were going to be living together. I confronted him and he still wouldn't confess to it. I have not heard from him in a month and some weeks,I can not even reach him at work or on his cell. I am still in love with him, I think about this everyday, what should I do?
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reader, penta +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Yeah. Add me to the stack of Aunts who think you escaped. Count your blessings and move on.
And if you ever find yourself in the position of dating a man who is involved with someone else, you do the leaving.
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 August 2007):
 It's unanimous so far, Good riddance to bad rubbish!
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Thank your lucky stars it's the other woman who's pregnant, and not you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): The guy is a sleazebag. Think about it: he was dating you and this other woman at the same time.
Nothing wrong with dating two at the same time EXCEPT that he was having sex with both of you (the ethical thing to do when "you" decide to bed one of the two "you" are seeing, "you" must then end it with the other person involved.) This man did not do that, and he LIED to you, AND got his other gf pregnant!
For heaven's sake, WHY do you think you are still "in love" with him?! We hear from people on this site, who get treated like dirt, and still "love" the man or woman who has behaved so badly.......beats me as to why, but still.
Back to you: You would be wise to consider yourself well rid of him. Seriously. You don't, she doesn't, deserve a man such as this deceitful, selfish two-timing character, who cares for nothing but his own gratification. Unfortunately for her, she has to bear this rat's baby.
You ask what you should do. How about stopping trying to contact him and be glad he's not around any more? Then getting on with your life, and look forward to maybe later down the road meeting a nice, decent guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): There's nothing you can do, except be happy as heck that it's not you who's pregnant with this rat's child. He is a liar and a coward. Go find someone worthy of your affections. It speaks a lot about your self esteem that you stayed with him knowing he was seeing someone else. He is just going to do what he did to you to her. And it's worse for her because she has a child with him. You lucked out!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): To be honest I think your better off without him. He obviously never wanted you to know, and think of his poor pregnant girlfriend - that could of been you in a years time or so. I don't think it was a nice thing to do carry on dating him even though you KNEW he had a girlfriend. Even if it wasn't serious he was still going out with her.
I think you should count your blessings and realise what a good escape you had. Don't think about all the things you miss about him think about how he betrayed you and how much hurt he's caused his girlfriend. He was obviously lieing about it being serious as she's pregnant and they are moving in together.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Oh sweetheart, you need to let go & let this woman take the brunt of his playa ways. Shes stuck with him, having his baby, you think, anyway.
Even if its not true, what does she want to be with someone thats playing 2 women?
Nah, you're worth more than that.
Stay strong! Move on, and let sleeping dogs lie.
It really isnt worth it!
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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