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writes:Five months ago, I told a long-distance love (I live in LA; he's from San Fran) that I couldn't do it anymore. Mainly, because he would constantly tell me he missed me and wanted to see me, yet wouldn't follow through. Granted, we only dated six months--but things moved quickly.Since then, we've been e-mailing and texting each other that we miss each other. I've dated other people--one guy as long as five months. I can only assume he did the same. For me, my dating experiences weren't the same; they fell flat. The San Fran guy and I had something special. We made each other laugh, had intelligent conversations, had amazing physical chemistry and shared a real connection.Finally, after our most recent admission of missing each other (Sept. 23), I e-mailed him tonight to tell him that I want to see him again. Did I do the right thing? My theory is...it was in my heart, and I could ignore it no longer--so I had to let him know. Life is too short to not take risks. I just hope that he feels the same. If not, at least I finally will have closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): well, frankly speaking it doesnt really matter. As long as u truly luv him. If u have had previous experiences of dating while dating this guy i hope u know u have been clearly cheating. Still u have feelings 4 him. But would he accept u after knowing the truth abt u? Wt would u feel if he said no after dat?
Think abt all this and than take ur next step.
Good luck
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 yes you did the right thing. I went through a similar situation with a LDR late last year where I just couldn't ignore the feelings anymore, I told him how I felt with no expectations at all except to find closure to the "what if" question. We are now together as a couple and working towards moving closer to each other and building a life together. From my own experience it is better to find out either way than to wonder what would have happened if you just took the risk. Good luck I hope it all works out for you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 I believe the cliche which is appropriate comes from the basketball court: No blood; no foul...
You did OK.... Now, good luck as you (and he) figure out how to persevere with the difficulties of an LDR...
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (26 September 2011):
 you did the right thing - fronting isn't helpful. Just set some ground rules. He cant tell you he misses you then not rise to the occasion to come see you.
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