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My girlfriend wants me to give up porn...and I would choose her but I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not.

Q.   Before anyone chips in and says that I don't understand this from the female perspective, please hear me out - because I have read posts, and heard views from the female side - and believe me they are pretty mixed. My girlfriend and I have been tog...

A.   15 December 2007: Hammm, your a normal guy, but she deleted your porn folder and now she's lying about it. So how can you trust her? This is always going to be a problem if you stay with her, so you should consider dumping her and finding a gf who isn't worried ... (read in full...)

How messy will a hand-job get?

Q.   I'm super inexperienced, as in I've never done anything for a guy. My bf has done some things for me, but I haven't returned any favors because I dont know how to! I've been reading up on hand jobs, I think i have that pretty figured out. So my ...

A.   14 December 2007: You can do hand jobs when he's in almost any sort of clothes, but he'll probably enjoy it more if he's naked. Some guys really shoot it, so have plenty of tissues handy. Sometimes a lubricant is helpful, sometimes not. It's worth a try though. ... (read in full...)

I have a thing for virgins! Is this normal?

Q.   I am a 21 year old female, and I have a thing for guys who are virgins. I really don't know why, I am not attracted to young boys, it is certianly not to do with age... so I am not a female pedophile at all, I just find myself wanted to sleep with ...

A.   8 December 2007: I agree with India, you get off on taking guys that are pure and clean and nice and dirtying 'em up! Actually I think you're doing a wonderful job. I bet they're grateful.... (read in full...)

I can respect her vow of post-marital intercourse but I have my sexual needs/desires! I love her, but it's frustrating that she won't touch me.

Q.   Im a 24 year old American male who has only been touched and had sex with one girl when I was 17. Over the past 7 years I have been desperate for intimacy and sex with only failed results. I did however meet a girl 4 months ago whom I have grown to ...

A.   8 December 2007: In a meaningful relationship each partner should be respecting the other's needs, and she's not doing this. The longer you go without having sex or intimacy with her, the less likely it is that you ever will. I once chased a girl I really liked for ... (read in full...)

I'm a real life 28 year old virgin... and have hardly lived a life. I need a solution!

Q.   Hi, I am a 28 year old male from the UK. I have a major personal dilemma: I am still a virgin- at my age! This is literally driving me insane. It is affecting me psychologically. I feel that there is a part of my life that is missing. I can not talk...

A.   3 December 2007: Reply to TG I'm a 66 year old man with Asperger's syndrome. I had never heard of it until I was 57, but it has wrecked my social life completely. I have only had one relationship in my life, which was when I was 30, and that only lasted three mon... (read in full...)

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