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writes:[Mod note* poster your suggested title was already taken]I asked my man, an "If we were to break up" question. I asked would you still love me? his answer was "probably". But If I was asked this question I would say I def would, without a doubt never stop(just cause of where we have been together and hung on strong). But It stung a little bit to hear he prob would. Am I wrong?Please No RUDE, or HARSH comments..Thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic +, writes (16 September 2010):
 When you ask questions like this, don't be surprised if he doesn't magically know to say what you want to hear. He can't read your mind and won't instinctively know you're looking for an ego boost, he's going to give you an honest answer thinking that's what you want, since you asked the question.
Fishing for compliments and reassurance is a mind game for 12 year old girls. If you want to hold on to your boyfriend, I suggest you stop playing.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (16 September 2010):
Oh what a silly thing to do.
I see that you don't want rude or harsh answers, however I am going to give you an honest one, and you can take it as you like.
These sort of "hypothetical" questions are silly and immature gameplaying.I don't know what you were expecting him to say. If you guys were to split up then it probably means one of you doesn't want to be with the other anymore. So, why should he still love you? What a ridiculous thing to ask.
Moreover, how do you know you would still love him? You don't and so can't say that categorically.
You need to grow up a bit. This sort of question is so childish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Wow, some great answers here... hope you learned a very valuable lesson about "fishing" for answers you want to hear.
He gave you and honest answer.
What if you cheated on him and he broke up with you - love you then? How about if you stole all of his retirement money and blew it on drugs and your drug dealing boy friend, how about then?
Seriously flawed question... honest answer... hurt feelings...
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Your hypothetical question was a lame immature attempt to get a reaction out of him to prove to yourself he does in fact love you now.Stop playing littl girl games or you may be headed for a breakup.Get a life, outside of your boyfriend, then you will be fine whatever becomes of this relationship and with him.There that's the truth and it isn't harsh or rude, it's the truth there's a BIG difference.You aren't asking for the TRUTH from him, now are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): If you weren't ready for an honest answer, why did you ask the question? He was honest with you, you should be thankful he feels comfortable enough with you to tell you the truth.
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reader, lainey23 +, writes (16 September 2010):
 When it's a hypothetical question, there is no way to know for sure how you will feel when it happens. Especially if it's a BREAKUP. Usually when two people end a relationship, it isn't mutual and someone is hurt. So, "Probably" is pretty good for a guy. Be happy he didn't say NO and stop asking questions like that...it only leads to arguments and hurt feelings. You're with him. So, why even ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Let me ask you a hypothetical question, if he slept with your mom and got her pregnant or did some other insanely hurtful thing to you and you dumped him, would you still love him after that?
Or say you were to break up tomorrow do you think in 30 years you're still going to love him? and if so do you think that would be a good thing?
Yeah you are wrong in my opinion, "probably" is the truth. Don't ask questions like that, they're pointless. Because often you're not going to like what you hear, there's no need to ever bring breaking up into a conversation unless you plan on doing so.
You might as well ask him if he'd still find you attractive if toes started growing on your face, all your teeth turned black and your nose turned into a big puss filled boil.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 September 2010):
 Would it even matter? If you were broken up wouldn't it be better that he didn't love you so the both of you can move on?
I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 no I understand how you feel, It happens to me sometimes too with my boyfriend, questions that I am so sure of the answer, he's not. So you start to feel like you care more then her does. But really maybe he's thinking.... well depends on how we break up. My bf does the whole much to realistic thing on me like ..... if I say (we are grade 11) In grade 12 you better give me a ride sometimes. Since he gets a car then and I don't till collage. And he is like wow that's a pretty long way away. What by then it would 2 years ... who knows if we can last that long. He;s VERY realistic. So no I do not believe that you should be mad or shouldn't be. But it is reasonable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 September 2010):
I know you didn't want harsh or rude, but why did you ask this question to him? This is one of those silly questions that really has no bearing on anything and shouldn't have been asked.
Let's say you dumped him and hurt him. think he'd still love you then? No. If he hurt you, would you still love him? Probably not. Because, once you've broken up, you lose the rights to the other person's love. He loves you now, as you are. He isn't going to love you if you spit up, because he will choose to move on.
Don't ask these silly questions. You wont' get the answer you're looking for, because men don't do 'subtle' or 'hint'. Ask us a direct questions, you'll get an honest, direct answer.
So, you're wrong on this occasion. Sorry.
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