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writes:well i asked a girl out and she said no. i am distraught what should i do i feel crap. my friend ruined any chance by shouting we are talking about sex so it put her off the topic of going out. Reply to this Question
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reader, Weyland-Yutani +, writes (24 September 2009):
 Welcome to the club. (Well, technically welcome to the normal club, not the club that's been rejected literally 30 times). Believe me, a girl saying no isn't the end of the world. Just wait for the right one, make your move,and if you crash and burn, buy another car! On the friend note, clearly he isn't your friend doing something like that. SO I'd say either one of two options.1: Just completely distance yourself from him as if you never knew him2: Same as one, but give him a reason3: Ask him why he did it, and if he doesn't apologise or at least show some form of remorse, see 1.Sorry to be blunt, but that's the way it is, however, me being not the most normal person and therefore the least easy to get on with, I lose friends a lot of the time. Then, a few weeks later, a conversation will start up, and suddenly you'll be mates again.Hope this helps build you a better world :D
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (24 September 2009):
 Dump the friend. Catch the next bus. In other words find another girl to ask out. You're so young maybe you should just take your time learning about what girls really want.
What do they want? Respect, kindness, friendship. The sex part comes later.
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reader, jimflex +, writes (24 September 2009):
She may lack the confidence to say "yes" in case you dump her after dating. Fear of rejection is one of the many problems in adolescence. Be patient and allow her to get to know you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 September 2009):
Your friend was immature I'm afraid. If she said no, there's really nothing you can do. Maybe try speaking to her when he's not around and apologizing for his behaviour. Say that he wasn't speaking for you and that you hope you and her can be friends. Build it up again and if she seems interested, ask her again in private. If she says no, then you'll have to move on. Don't worry, we've all been there. There are plenty of others. Good luck.
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