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writes:I m 37 having 2 kids. Both studing in 12th and 10th standard. I m house wife and my husband is a worker in oil factory. My husband met an accident and is in hospital from last 3 months. My brother-in-law and nephew has been paying all the hospital bills and our livelyhood as we are not having that much money. Both my b-i-l and nephew are staying in different city but yesterday my nephew has came here for nearly 15 days. He is 28 and having a kid of 2 yrs. He left his wife and kid at her father's house and will be staying with us.Yesterday after lunch we were alone in the corridor when doctor was performing dressing. In corridor we were chatting and what i observed that he was staring at my face and my chest a lot. And in talk also he was admiring my face and said I am very fair from inside by pointing his eyes towards my chest. And all these he was doing when no one was there in corridor. And height of all he has done when we were in shared taxi towards house. As taxi was full and he was close to me and he kept the bag he got with him on his laps which was long enough to cover my lap also. In the journey while talking about city he slide his hand on my lap below the bag. I was socked and seen towards him but he pretended as nothing has happened and continued talking about the building in roadside. As it was dark enough that it was not noticed by other passangers. And also he was staring at me from his bed till midnight.Eventhough he has not said anything straight forward but from all this, it is clear that his intensions towards me are on wrong path. He is mature and doing all these knowingly. In house i m always with my kids except 8am to 10am as at that time my kids would have been left for school and i am preparing lunch for my husband. And outside house we will be in public. As i have observed he is not doing anything wrong in public.As still he will stay here for 2 weeks i m affraid he may try the chance on me. I will try to avoid him but if he has forcefully done then i may not be as he is the only son of my b-i-l. And as they are the only financial help at this tough time to my family. And doctors have told it will take another 6 months to my husband to be able to go to factory.Please advice in this regard, i have lost my mind and not able to think at all.And if worst thing happens. What precautions i should take to avoid pregnancy?What will be side effects as he is my real nephew and nearly 9 years yonger than me (health wise)?Will anything may affact my sexual life with my husband?Please reply at the earliest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): ha ha ha... this is a typical indian sex fantasy! I know, b'cos I'm indian! Pls don't waste others time! Get a life!!!
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reader, jc82  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Can you leave or go anywhere to avoid him during the day and lock your door at night? Or could you invite your mother or another relative to come stay with you until he leaves for protection? If someone else is there with you, I'm sure it would help.
Tell on him if you can. Maybe your sister or b-i-l will be able to reprimand him. If he gets very forceful, be as aggressive as possible with him. Bite him, kick him, scratch him, do everything you can to hurt him. Perhaps also sleep with a weapon near you, to defend yourself. This is your honor, you have a right to protect it.
I'm sorry to hear you in this situation, I hope things improve soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): Well i am astonished that inspite of being married happily with 2 kids u are ready to allow that idiot rape u ,
thats like cheating on your husband, poor husband is sick & on bed & he might hate all this, keep yourself in his place & think what if u were on bed & your husband did this with some woman, how would u feel?
u should keep away from your nephew & for the 2hrs that u are alone u can move out of the house somewhere, try being with your husband at the hospital at such times so that u can avoid all this in case u feel any urge too since your husband isnt in the condition to satisfy your needs at the moment.
But no way is it acceptable to cheat your husband this way, its better u inform ur b-i-l about it that his son has wrong intentions, maybe he does not approve of it too.
But plz dont ever cheat on your husband EVER
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Next time ,if he tries anything funny , just push him away and leave the place. You should not encourage him by not doing anything about it. He will get the message.
You don't want to make him angry as you have to depend on his generosity and kindness.
You can take the pill or have ready the morning after pill and some condoms.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Could you possibly go to a neighbours house or invite one over for the 2 hours that you are not with your kids? Even take a walk, go to the market, a park, a temple, ...anything that will keep you away from him for those periods of time?
Also visit with a doctor to discuss birth control options just incase the worst happens - and I hope for you that it doesn't. Should a pregnancy result, there should be no additional risks to the child healthwise unless you are blood related as opposed to related by marriage. The family and social consequences in your society would be where the real problems would lay.
If he does try anything else tho, don't keep quiet about him, ..repremand him sternly and tell him you are sure your husband appreciates what he is doing for you all financially but that you are certain he would not appreciate such innappropriate behaviour towards his wife. Also remind him that you are his Aunty and ask how he would feel if your son did the same thing to his Aunty (his mother), ..and if he holds any religious views even use those to remind him of how his behaviour is unacceptable.
Best tho to take precautions and then do your utmost to avoid being alone with him for the next couple of weeks.
If your husband is able to communicate, perhas you should even tell him what has happened and how uncomfortable it has made you feel. He may have a word to his brother to speak to his son about it , .or may speak to your nephew directly.
Best Wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): You do not owe sexual favours to anyone.
Tell your BIL about his son and what he is up to. Tell your husband.
Next time your nephew makes any type of sexual insinuation tell him that you are not playing and that you will inform his father or the police. If he tries to assault you kick him in the groin. If you are in public and he makes an advance shame him then and there. Don't ignore an assault to save public face. Considering what you are preparing yourself for, call him out about it right there. If you are in a cab again and there are other passengers, speak out about his sexual harrassment. Say, "Get your slimy hand off of my lap!"
I can't believe you are ready to be raped rather than defend your self by fighting back. It makes me think this posting is not legitimate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): i don't get it. you are saying you might cheat on your husband? tell this 28 year old guy to leave you alone. end of story
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