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writes:right, im nearly 14 and i have a boyfriend. hes older than me, hes 15. hes not a virgin and we do talk about having sex alot. he has fingered me but he only fit 1 finger up and i am very scared of the pain if he does have sex with me, im also scared just incase his penis dont fit up. im also abit scared that he will say something about my vagina, help!?
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reader, Audrey27  +, writes (30 December 2009):
Hey there. I am about to be 14 in a few days. I have had sex already and the bad thing is that me and the boy barely talk anymore. Whenever he's over or we talk all he wants to do is get a picture or fuck me. I was very scared my first time. Especially that I snuck out to a barn to meet him and have sex. Yes I ain't gonna lie I liked all that but I wish i knew what I know now. That's all they want. Tell him you want to wait, if you do, and if he's rude And gets mad forget him! There's more out ther! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): Im also 14 and i know that the urges are strong and it requires alot of will power to refrain from the thought that you "need" to have sex....but just hang in there and if your boyfriend really respects you and loves you, he will wait...
i know this because i am currently in the same situation and have talked to my boyfriend and he is willing to wait for me because if im not ready he says he will respect that...thats what a good boyfriend would do...no offence to yours or anything..
But just hang in there and talk to your boyfriend...hopefully he understands and will wait for you!!
~anonymous~
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): well, i don't think you should have sex until YOU are ready. you will know when the time has come and if you're boyfriend loves you that much he will be prepared to wait. Also dont worry about your vagina. Everyones vagina is different, I've seen two or three and non were the same also the vagina is very elastacted, the pain you felt when you got fingered would be the hymen breaking, the hymen is a peice that gets broken during your first sexual intercourse or when you instert something into you vagina therefore there wont be as much pain when you do have sex because it has probably already been broken.
Even though sex sounds awesome i bet there's alot of things, judging by the questions you're asking, you don't know about. The are STI,s (sexually transmitted diseases) these are diseases you or he could pass on to each. You catch them through unprotected sex ( that means you dont wear a condom) but if you are a virgin then you can't have them. Some of these diseases look horrible and could make you infertile - unable to have children- some of the diseases have absolutely NO symptoms an example of this is the most common and most dangerous of the STI's/STD's Chlamydia.
Hope this help and please please dont have sex until you and he are ready.
Ps. even though he says he's not a virgin he probably is
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reader, snail +, writes (29 December 2009):
Im still a virgin and im 25 and happy that I waited / am waiting
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): Hi there, I know at your age how life feels you just want to rush in and experience new things and so on, but trust me save your virginity keep it for someone extremely special when you are older and when you know in your heart its the right time. You will know its the right time when you have no doubts whatsoever in your mind, and right now your having doubts. Don't let this boy pressure you into sex now, you are not ready, he wont mean anything to you in a few years time, he would have moved on to another girl, dont mean to sound harsh but thats the way it is. Save your self!
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (27 December 2009):
 i know everyones telling u ur too young, im 14, and ur too young. ur not gonna marry him.... so dont loose ur virginity to him. just becuz ur dating doesnt mean u have to have sex. he might just be using u. and if hes not a virgin and had sex with a lot of other girls, u could be at risk for diseases.... just please dont have sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): well a little bit of info in this from experience. Yes it may hurt some but tightness feels GREAT to a guy but all at the same time its going to hurt like a bitch what my gf did was finger herself for a week solid every time she got a chance try that and also try using a vibrator first
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): In the UK it is illegal to have sex below the age of 16. You are not mature enough to make this decision and are unable to cope with the before and after affects it will have on you. You should wait until you are older and are having more serious relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): You are way to young. please dont do anymore with i would stop all sexual contact except kissing. if u dunt u will later regret i promise you that. i know cause i went through something like this a couple of years ago. i dont want any one to make the same mistakes ive seen peolpe do. you should only do this stuff with people when your atleast acouple years older and you are 100 percent in love with them and yuo know u are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): i feel its a bit unfair how people don't help becaus age. don't worry sex is natural if your not ready for it then don't do it. yes your first time does hurt but its not as bad as you think your hyman (a layer of skin on the vagina) breaks & if your not completely aroused or 'wet' then it will be very painful. if you do have sex please make sure its w/ some one you -love- not just with someone you just fancy. &yes you are too young &your body isn't ready;i know how these urges are& they only get stonger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): Please wait until the two of you can enjoy sex without the worry of him getting into legal trouble. Relax about your body, in the next few years it will change and get ready for sex. The reason that you're tight is that your body has not yet changed, as it knows that you are not ready to get pregnant.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (26 December 2009):
 Just to remind you, in the UK, the legal age of consent for sexual acts is 16. This means BOTH people have to be over this age.
All sexual acts are illegal until you are 16. This includes, fingering, hand jobs, blow jobs, oral sex, vaginal sex and anal sex.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
Please do not continue with this until you are old enough. You will only regret it if you do this too young.
Do you know about contraception? The pill, condoms? And also the sexual diseases you could get, which may not have any symptoms, and leave you unable to have children, or in the worst cases possibly even kill you?
There is also a much greater risk of developing cervical cancer if you start having sex too early (again, this could also kill you)
Are you prepared to have a child? If you are willing to have sex, then you are willing to take this risk. Do you want to give up your life for the next 18 years? No money, no going out, no friends. Probably no boyfriend, as I doubt at 15 he would stand by you.
Think about this.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (26 December 2009):
 You are far to young to be even contemplating having sex. Continuing experimenting with touching. do not let him pressure you into it. Say it for someone special when you are old enough. You sound very inexperienced and the sort of person that would fall pregnant. Say away from direct contact. Think about your reputation. You will be much respected as the hard to get girl that the easy to lay slag. Boys can be cruel!
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reader, Blod +, writes (26 December 2009):
 Sex is scary for the first time at whatever age. So make sure you're 100% ready if you're going to. You're boyfriend should respect you so you shouldn't be worried about him saying something about you. He's a bad boyfriend if he does say anything.
You're very young and remember what you're doing is illegal.
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