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writes:Basically I have been dating this girl for two years now and she's the only girl I have ever dated. She's a great girlfriend but I just feel as if this relationship has ran its course. I may sound horrible but when I'm about to meet up with her to spend time I dread it. I just feel very bored when im with her, no matter what we do. The only time I feel the same way I used to about her back when we started dating, is when were doing anything sexual. This makes me feel terrible and it makes me think that all I feel for her is passion. I still find her as attractive as I used to, but I don't think I love her anymore. I don't care for any of her problems anymore because she seems to complain about the same things every week. She hardly goes out with her friends anymore either, meaning that she is constantly texting me and not giving me any room. I have talked to her about these problems numerous times but she hasn't changed and I think its because that's who she is. It feels like I am trapped and the only way out is to break up with her. I don't want to tell her right now because were in the middle of exams and I don't want to ruin her grades.Can anyone help me to understand what needs to be done because I think my judgement is really messed up at the moment. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): Yes wait till her exams are over. You may not care about her anymore but respect this is her future here.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Sorry - You SHOULD wait until your exams are over. That's the kindest thing to do. It's not a big deal for You because you are the one who is fed up and wants out - you won't be heartbroken when you move on. But SHE is going to be heartbroken - and she will have a very hard time concentrating on anything except her heartache - so she will probably fail her exams over this. If you have been together for 2 years - you can wait 2 weeks until your exams are over and break up with her then. That's the kindest thing to do.
As a mother, I had someone dump my daughter two weeks before Christmas in the middle of her exams after taking her home to meet his parents because "She was the one". They were different religious backgrounds; she is agnostic and he was Jewish. How this boy was able not to understand that his parents weren't going to approve of her and why he chose his timing so badly was something that I put down to immaturity and cowardice. As a Mom I warned her that she might not be accepted by his family, but she told me that I was being old-fashioned.
You know how you feel, you realize that your future together is not going to happen because your heart no longer is with her; but you CAN be the bigger person by considering her feelings and choosing the appropriate time for her heartbreak to happen. During exams isn't the right time. Do the right thing and wait a little bit longer.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (23 February 2011):
imhoif you dumped her you well regret this but when it is too late,according to you she is a great girl and she is good in bed ..why on earth would break up with her?instead try to stop seeing ech other for a week or twoso you can revive your emotions God Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks largentsgirl89, you have really helped me to understand the situation. I guess I just dont like change and I have to accept that things have to.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 YOu shouldn't hold off on breaking up with your gf because you don't want to ruin her grades, I understand that a break up can be a very emotional time (especially for women) and should be handled delicately.
If you don't love her anymore and you only feel something for her when you two are intimate then it's probably time to move on and find a new gf.
You're still young and experiencing the world, there is no shame in finding someone new.
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