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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i am in a relationship with an older girl and i am a virgin but she isn't. i feel pressured but don't want to have sex out of embarrasment. because of lack of exsperience and how would i know if its big or small compared to others'?
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 First of all, just relax. I know its easier said than done but if she really loves you, she would understand and not pressure you if she is pressuring you. Start out with the basics...like making out and such until you feel comfortable with her. I believe the average size of a guy is five to six inches. If you're smaller then you can do other things to make up for it. If you're bigger, then you still have to learn a woman's pleasure points because even though you're big, it doesn't make up for crappy foreplay/clumsiness.
The only person who can make you feel better about yourself is your own self. Sure, people can tell you that you're hot but if you don't truly believe it, then it doesn't matter what they say. I am the same way but I do things to improve myself like exercise or not eat a bunch of fatty foods like chips or candy.
You'll gain confidence as you get older and have more experience with interacting with other females and guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Oh hunny and here is something for your self confidence
http://www.channel4.com/health/microsites/0-9/4health/teenlife/mma_bodyimage.html
TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Be 100% ready yourself before you do anything and dont be pressurised into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Hi hunny
You are still young and all this will come when you are ready, Just because you are a fella doesnt mean you should feel this way as its usually the girls that question this with an older male, And you should not do anything just because you feel pressured sweetheart.
You havent fully grown yet so you have alot of growing to do so I would put to much presure on the size of your manhood just yet..Ill send you a link about all sorts of help ok hun and you go at your own pace not someone elses.
http://www.avert.org/faqypsex.htm
This will answer alot of your questions and worrys and also give you great advice on safe sex to hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 A good workman does not blame his tools!He knows how to use his tools efficiently and effectively.
Whatever you want to know about the technicals , you can find it all online. Just Google your question.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (24 February 2008):
simply put only have sex when you feel ready to. Your lack of confidence stems from lack of experience. Tell her how you feel about your ability to please her and I am sure she will feel flattered given the fact you are a virgin. Honestly, size does not matter. It's not the size of the wand that matters but the wizard who waves it. Foreplay that is the key to success. A good technique for oral is to trace IN CAPITAL LETTERS ON HER CLITORIS the alphabet from a to z with your tongue. You can go as fast or as slow as you like but this will definitely blow her away. But only do this and anything else when YOU FEEL READY TO. Ok.
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