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writes:i am 17 and have been with my boyfriend also 17 for 3years, my feelings have changed and i love someone else. i have recently been seeing a man of 31, he is lovely and doesnt seem his age. i work with him and have stayed over his house 6 times in which we have had sex twice. he says he loves me and is really affectionate towards me.is this too much of an age gap?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): No, this age gap is not a problem. If you are happy then follow your heart.
But you have to end it with your 'Boyfriend' because cheating is not right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow im confused. I didnt think of it in that way. Well i didnt really think atal. Now im thinkin i cant throw away a 3year relationship 4 someone i can never really be accepted with. Plus he has a 8year old daughter :S Wot was i thinkin . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): You're cheating on your BF, and the big question on your mind is whether the age-gap with other guy is a problem?!?
Please don't have kids. PLEASE. Children need to be raised with at least some vague concept of morality.
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reader, BlueEyes89 +, writes (28 September 2007):
 I was in a similiar situation myself, my 21 year old boyfriend decided that we should go on a 'break' and in that time i went to a family wedding and met a family friend, he is 35 and was great to talk to, i fet he understood me and has continued to shower me with texts and phone calls, he is handsome and kind, so i spent the night with him, and then my ex decided he wanted me, well, by then it was to late and the best man had already won my affections. It may not be forever, mine or your relationship, but whilse we are young, we should have some fun, untill we meet mr right...! Be careful though, and if you ever want to chat, just message me, Hannahx x x
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reader, lisa21 +, writes (28 September 2007):
your poor boyfriend. thats who i feel sorry for, i can not stand people who cheat, if you do not love your boyfriend you need to get a back bone and tell him. i believe what goes around comes around and when it does you will know how your bf will feel!!!!!!!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Hi,
If you know this guy well then you should know his past. If he doesnt have a shady past then you should be ok. Find out what his intentions are. I am 19 and my bf is 30. We are happy together.You should actuallt break up with your bf and then decided on at future realtions with this other guy. Good Luck.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Any 31 year old MAN who is having sex with a co worker that is a 17 year old GIRL has major issues. He is using you for sex, all he has done is taken you to his house 6 times and worn down your resistance and had sex with you...does this sound like a relationship to you? Why would you love a pervert who is using you for sex, he is into young nubile, child like girls, on the brink of womanhood, it creeps me out and it should creep you out too. I bet he is addicted to porn, snoop around, you'll find it.
When you are 30, a 14 year age gap to an older person (not younger) is not a big deal, but you are still a child in many people's eyes, and this guy should know better than to take advantage of your vulnerability. You are looking for more trouble than you know, especially if you work with him. I also feel sorry for your boyfriend, and think that if you have been with him for three years, it is probably time to break up and try being your own person without the attachment of a boyfriend. For goodness sake, you have come out of childhood as part of a two person unit. You probably have no idea who YOU really are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): he wants to knock up a 17 yr old so he will tell you what you want to hear so watch out and use some BC..
and yes it is too much of an age gap. a guy that age has different motives than you do. however if you like this guy more don't keep cheating, just break up and jump ship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): I dont think that the age gap is an issue , but I dont understand why you have been taking the best of both worlds. Its really unfair of you to be conducting a relationship with another man, when your boyfriend thinks everything is fine and dandy. Are you having sex with both of them? I hope you havn't risked your own health and your boyfriends cus the older guy has probably been with more people than you have.
I dont mean to lecture, but surely you can see it is unfair. How would you feel if the tables were turned?
You need to call it off with your boyfriend asap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): In my opinion, any guy 31 year old guy that is dating a 17 year old has some issues & doesn't have his head on straight or has his morals messed up. But it's up to you so just leave your boyfriend. It's not fair to him.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (27 September 2007):
 no - the age gap isn't the problem, you need to end your relationship with your boyfriend and now.
he's living with false hope and it's unfair on him. the sooner you leave him, the sooner you'll be able to carry on with your life and have a happy relationship with your lover.
you need to do it and do it now, don't string this guy along if you don't love him anymore.
best of luck
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