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writes:I'm a 13 year old girl. I've been really sad for quite a long time so my Mom got me to talk to a counseller. I've been seeing him for a couple months now and yesterday when I saw him I felt really uncomfortable. So he's 54 and I'm only 13. I was just sitting on the chair and he kept looking at my body. I mean, he kept looking me up and down. I'm scared he might do something. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (1 February 2008):
 Every poster on here has given you top advice, the best thing that you can possible do is tell your Mum. Don't even contemplate going to another meeting with this guy, there is obviously something not right about him. Please tell your Mum what happened and let her take it from there.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Please dont put up with this for another minute, and certainly dont go along to the next meeting. Tell your parents all that you have told us. You need to have a female therapist and you will get one, without any bother. Dont put up in silence.
take care
xx
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (1 February 2008):
 I agree with everyone on here, tell your mum! She has no idea about it and you're supposed to be going to him for help, not making you feel uneasy and scared!
Tell your parents and ask to change cousellers, you shouldn't feel uneasy around him, you should feel relaxed. So follow your instincts and your heart, and tell someone.
Take care x
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Your Mom has NO idea that this man is creepy, you have to tell her. She wouldn't want you to be in the same room with him if she knew. It's really important that you speak up and tell your Mom. Always trust your own feelings! Your Mom will find you a new therapist.
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reader, quit playing games with my heart +, writes (1 February 2008):
 tell your mom right away! do not ever feel embarrassed to say that some one is making you uncomfortable, don't be worried about hurting people's feeling s when you feel like you could be harmed in ANY way. don't go to see him anymore.
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reader, yup_its_cor  +, writes (1 February 2008):
personally, i think that you should talk to your parents about either changing your councilor or try to work things out on your own. im sure if you tell your mom you're uncomfortable with your councilor and tell her what he does then she shouldnt make you go anymore.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Anytime you feel uncomfortable about something like this, Don't keep it a secret. Tell your Mom, and request a Famale Therapist.
Go with your instincts. There are a lot of creepy people out there. He sounds like one of them.
A friend of mine had the same problem with her Private Piano Teacher. She was about your age. She never told anyone. He progressed into inappropriate physical contact with her.
Stop it before it starts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Yes i agree with the other aunts, tell your mum and she will find you another counsellor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
If you are at all scared or uncomfortable love you can change counsellors at anytime, And if you would feel more comfortable talking to a woman tell your mum of your concerns and hopefully she will sort it for you hun..TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Hi Hun, if you feel uncomfortable with your councellor looking at you in an inappropriate way tell your mother and get her to register you to a different person.
Good Luck Hun. Dusky xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Whatever he is thinking does not matter, if you are uncomfortable you need to stop seeing him. Sometimes people do look people up and down. In this case I would say it is very unprofessional and insensitive to say the least. At worst it could be sexual. You need to see a different therapist and put your need to do this above everything else.
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reader, Orlando +, writes (1 February 2008):
 I doubt he'll do 'something' but there's nothing wrong with asking your mom for a female therapist. . .its perfectly normal for women to ask for a woman to talk to because of the things your feeling as well as people just find it easier talking to someone the same sex as themselves. . .
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