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anonymous
writes:My husband seems to always want me to be friends with girls that he "gets a kick out of" but it always feels like he wants it so he can have an excuse to be close and flirty with them. I have said I am happy with my current friendships and don't want any more friends because I love my solitude. I have also said that if he wanted to, he, himself, can reach out to this girl or that girl (which ever girl it is in question) and then he'll say he's not interested in her as his friend..he was thinking about me. When I say "No...as a matter of fact, I really would rather get closer to my sister for a friendship," that doesn't seem to satisfy him. I try to remind him that he can seek the friendship himself. I don't like the idea of being friends with someone just because he wants me too because he likes them and why is it always a girl. I notice he doesn't do anything at all with his male friends. Today he talked about how much he missed a cashier soo much "my little baby" he called her..and he suddenly said, "hey...lets see if she is there and tell how much we miss her"...I was creeped out because I don't know her. I was sooo glad she wasn't there because I felt like a complete idiot following him to the place and I couldn't help but wonder if he had planned this hardware store trip just to check on his "little baby" WITH ME at the nearby liquor store. I feel too creeped out being there while he flirts like that...I don't wanna be an accomplice of it but that is what it feels like. Whether or not I like or dislike that he flirts is a nonissue here...the issue is that I don't feel like tagging along just so he can feel better about doing it. For some reason it's creepy to me. I don't know why either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): He is what I call an 'Honest Theif' he does it open and right under your nose and you let him...and think it is ok because it is open ( very cunning man)
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (19 February 2013):
 What I dont understand is why you even let him demean u in such a manner. Are you not enough for him. Are u expected to be him pimp? Seriously get a divorce as this man has no respect for you or his marriage and you definitely deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): It is creepy. Basically he thinks that flirting with other women while married is only wrong if it is kept secret from the wife. Whereas is the wife knows and approves then he has a free pass to do it all he wants guilt free. It's like he knows it's wrong and he really wants to do it but he doesn't have the guts or energy to sneak around doing it. Therefore he wants to dupe you into approving of him doing it. What a jerk.
Give him a taste of his own medicine. Tell him there is this good looking co worker of yours that you want him to become friends with. Then keep gushing about said co worker. Or start flirting with a waiter or something and then drag your husband to go check him out.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (19 February 2013):
 Hon, huge red flags here - he wants you to be friends with these women because then it would be easier to cheat on you with them.
Your hb needs to grow up and decide either he wants you as a wife or he wants all these women! He obviously enjoyes the attention that these women give him and he is either having affairs or is about to have an affair.
And sorry to say but you need to stand up and stop taking his nonsense. Stop being so tolerant. If you find the situation unacceptable, tell him so, and if he fails to listen start with marriage counselling, and failing that tell him there is a choice - either you or them. BUT HE CANT HAVE BOTH!
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