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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I think my husband is having an affair with someone he works with. I caught them chating on facebook and told him I did not like it and he said he would stop. The other day he told me he had to work late and his phone was in his locker but when I checked his phone later I saw where he had answered 3 calls from work during the hour before he told me he left work and did not answer mine. Then yesterday I told him I had a suprise for him that I would be at his work at 5. When he came out and found out that the suprise was I was going to take him out and have some sexy with him out he got mad and said he just wanted me to take him back to his car so he could go home because he had a bad day. He later said he was sorry but did not want me comming to his work anymore to supprise him wait and do it at home. The I saw that after we got home, while I was in the other room very upset, he got on facebook and there was a message from her for him to text her cell phone, which he came upstairs to get. Then later that night while I was in the shower she sent him another message on facebook wanting to know were everyone was and goodnight. When ever I ask him he tells me he has no time to cheat on me and that he loves me to much to ever hurt me like that. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): firstly he lies when he says that he loves you too much to cheat and hurt you.
secondly he lies when he says he is not cheating
i do not know what you are going to do but you need to do something. the fact that he doesn't want you near his work is, i think, ample proof that something is amiss. you need to tell him that you are not a fool. hey even confront the other woman and make it known that you know. and then tell him to f off or come clean. whatever happens do not pretend that his affair doesn't exist.
this man is hurting you, destroying you, please do not accept this lieing down. your life is too precious to waste away with an unfaithful hb. so many people who indulge in affairs run circles around their spouses. they make their spouses sound like they are paranoid, like they are going off their heads and claim that the 'evidence" is just in their heads. plse take a firm stand and be counted. do not be a victim and do not settle for his scraps.
good luck
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): It sounds like he is cheating, if you're not 100% convinced get some key logger software, so that you can see everything he does online and get some answers. in my opinion i think you should leave, you deserve better. good luck!
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female
reader, LotusDomme  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 I think you already know the answer to this one sweetheart.
If you want conformation on a forum then I will give you my opinion. Yes he is.
Furthermore, not only is he having his cake and eating it, but you are giving him seconds by condoning his behaviour.
People will only treat us in life the way we allow them to treat us. I have no doubts that you a wonderful person, so why are you giving him permission to continue to drag your confidence even further through the mire than what he already has done?
You clearly deserve better, all you have to do is BELIEVE it!
Fingers crossed for you that you find strength to heal yourself.
LotusDomme.
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